Suddenly I'm an old flame magnet....

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

In the last few weeks I've had mildly flirty FB messages from no less than three old flames. Three!!! Never forgot me, what am I up to ... blah blah blah. Now I'll admit I'm bloody gorgeous but never had myself down as the sort of femme fatale that grown men sigh about in quiet moments, reminiscing about the one that got away. Sad reality is that I'm late forties & so are they. They're all getting divorced and lining up replacements aren't they?

Ah, you don't understand cogito. Their wives were replacements for you. Now they've seen the error of their ways.

Still..it's gotta be worth milking it for a short preen in front of the mirror surely?

Haha - enjoy the little boost of confidence it gives you! I went out in my old hometown for a friend's hen do on Saturday night and this guy we worked with back when we were 16/17 kept approaching us repeatedly - he used to flirt with me a lot back then but he also slept with loads of people and I wouldn't touch him with a bargepole. He started going on about how we would be great together and he's been wanting to f* me for 15 years . Being polite didn't get rid of him so I had to be pretty rude in the end. On the other hand a gorgeous (younger) friend of the hen's chief bridesmaid was flirting with me all evening and even though I'm married so didn't act on it, his advances left me feeling a bit giddy - he was a hottie and if I wasn't married I'd have been all over him - . However, when he realised I was married, he was very polite and said 'If you weren't married..... Ummm. I think you're really cute, your husband's a lucky man.'

That's it.... of course.... One of them, I worked out eventually, was the lad I first kissed when I was 14! The name was vaguely familiar but the photo was no use. Why do all skinny lads end up looking like Uncle Fester?

Am single.

Hands cogito a fan to calm herself incase she suffers the vapers, with all this male attention.

Ha! Uncle Fester

My first love has just moved back to this country and I saw him the other day, now he has matured very nicely - was a bit funny looking when he was 16.

Another I saw on FB who was gorgeous at school but has now erm, filled out rather and completely gone to seed.

Far from lining up a replacement, this particular male ritual is designed to roll back the years reboot an ego that may have been dented by the slings and arrows of a dw who's glad to be shot of him outrageous fortune by creating a stock of standby shags for emergency purposes in the event that he finds he's past it lost the art of pulling.

Sorry, Cog - there's nowt flattering about it but it does have considerable amusement value that brings a rosy glow to the cheeks and puts the kind of spring in your step that attracts the attention of other males, some of whom may be in your current social circle and may perceive you with new eyes, as it were.

Haha - isn't it amazing how people change - some people really improve with age and others who looked alright in their teens look dreadful! Enjoy the attention

Izzy-

I shouldn't be too cruel about Uncle Fester, incidentally. No girlish figures here either... plenty of hair however. Yes this definitely has prod in the ribs potential with the current beau. Never hurts to keep them on their toes. Still... should probably make a note of those phone numbers.... might come in handy ....

Cogito, are you me? This is happening to me as well, DH and I are having a right laugh at them. Sadly, the exes are all married, but have sent me some rather rude messages! on their wives behalf!

Maybe it's a full moon or something I've no idea if any of them are married to be honest. Their problem.

'Twas a full blue moon last Friday... their ardour should be on the wane soon

I had this a few years ago although all the 3 guys were having 'relationship problems' and I had just got with my now DH. God only knows why they go rooting through old flames! Nice ego boost though!

'God only knows why they go rooting through old flames' The answer is sheer laziness, Stacey, coupled with the belief that they are the centre of the universe and everyone says 'how high' when they say 'jump'.

Flames are ex for a reason!

how about people that weren't old flames but suddenly start to contact you? I had someone who I would have thought never knew who I was at school contact me asking how I was.. I messages him back and said I think you've got the wrong Worley... you probably messaged me by accident.. but he didn't.. we had a pm thing going for about two years.. but suddenly it stopped. I assumed he eventually got a new gf!
but was quite nice to get attention from some one I really really fancied at school... but wasn't going to go there now lol.. even though he would be soo worth it :)