Hi - I was just wondering what others thought of this situation, as it's been bothering me all over the weekend.
Basically, my DP has a female friend he met through work; they're both teachers and worked in neighbouring classrooms. Apparently, he would spend a lot of time chatting to her in her room and they got on really well. She's now left and they are facebook friends. They seem to talk a lot on there but nothing that I get to see.
At the weekend, he was supposed to be doing some work and was at his PC at home. I came in to bring him a drink and he very quickly closed the F/B screen which had messages from her on it. He said, 'oh,we were just talking about our new schools etc' But why close the screen down like that as if he was worried I might see something?
He also asked me to look up a book for him at the library on Saturday and when he told me the name it was something that was massively out of character for him. I knew immediately it was something she'd recommended for him to read and so asked him why he was interested in it. He said, 'oh, just interested.' I know his reading habits very well and that was NOT a convincing answer. I tried again, and he still wouldn't tell me. In the end I said, 'XX suggested it, didn't she?' and he said 'yes.'
Obviously, I don't have a prob with that, but why the secrecy? I asked him that, and he said 'because I didn't want this sort of thing to happen' (ie the discussion and the questions etc). But why not just be open about it? It felt like he was hiding something from me.
There have been a few other little things that make me wonder; things that taken together are making me a little suspicious - am I overreacting or is he perhaps hiding something? I just feel a little worried about it all!