Dh has got many really good qualities. He sorts out car, house, bills etc., is a good dad, is kind, very handsome. I adore him and fancy him a lot. However, he finds it really hard to show any affection to me. Left to him we barely have a peck on the cheek all day then when we go to be he pulls me to him, feels one boob for a few seconds, a quick feel down there then is ready for sex. Actual sex is good and luckily he lasts a while giving me time to get turned on so i always orgasm, but usually have to fantasise.
Recently i have been being really affectionate to him during the day and felt a bit better, but last night i tried to kiss him while we were both naked having a shower and getting ready for bed. He basically said i want a shower, get out the way, what is the matter with you recently you are being too demanding and it is annoying.
I feel really hurt, unattractive and don't know how to make him show me the affection i crave. I also feel like not being at all loving to him just to see what happens. He apologised later and said he finds it hard being affectionate. Every so often he buys me flowers which he thinks solves all this, but i don't want flowers, i want him to show me he wants me physically.
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can a man learn how to become more affectionate? please give me some advice.
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