How to get over an infatuation

[Beograde]

Hello, I'd like some help getting over an infatuation. The short story is I met a man on a work trip (transatlantic). We were together for two weeks and we fell for each instantly. We both became very romantic and we were at least both saying how we'd never been happier, etc. I went back to the UK and we were skyping. We met again about a month later in Europe (where he was staying with family) and it was good but awkward. However since then, we've been talking about how we need time to think, and he is giving me mixed messages, such as he's never been happier with me, but he needs time to think.

It all sounds like it isn't going to work out, but I'm still besotted. In my mind, I still think maybe it will work out, etc, when it seems unlikely.

How do I get over this infatuation as it's driving me crazy. I wake up thinking about him, my friends are quite fairly bored of it. I need help, please!!

Distance, physical and mental.

Go cold turkey, it's the only way.

The physical distance is very easy - but the mental is torture. I've blocked his fb page, I even have a filter on my computer that bars me from seeing a webpage with his name on (like a porn filter), but I keep going back to how happy we both (at least said we) were

If it runs deeper then perhaps examining what those feelings were actually about. I think it is unlikely to be the quality of him or the relationship if it is going wrong now after being very intense and more likely to be the intensity was increased by other factors which if you examine then might help you move on.

Whenever anyone says they need time to think, you need to say, "Good idea, me too" and not say one other word to them. If you beg, plead, ask for more details, you'll feel awful afterwards.

THanks for the advice, it is so difficult. I'm definitely not going to contact him

I can feel for you Beograde, good luck with it.

Why not post on here when you're tempted to contact him and as has been suggested, look at what it's highlighted that perhaps you want to change in your life. All a lot easier said than done, I know.

Gosh, you poor thing. Really feel for you. I was obsessed with someone for years and it nearly destroyed me. The people on here advising distance are right - no contact, no indulging the thoughts. You're doing really well blocking him. The other thing that's essential in creating distance is time, which unfortunately means you will have to keep living with these feelings until they slowly diminish.

You will wake up one day and realise you didn't think about him for five minutes. Eventually you will surprise yourself by realising you didn't think of him for a whole hour. Later on, it will be a day, then many days. And time will have cured you.

When you've felt so strongly about someone it's easy to cling on to false hope and to anyone who tells you this is 'unfinished business' and that there is more of the story to run.

Try to resist these thoughts. It will just slow down your recovery.

I speak from bitter experience. I wasted so much of my life on someone once and I'm so glad to be free now.