When did you know your partner was the one?

[Emmielu]

I know some people dont believe you could ever find "the one" and that's fine that's their belief. But I'm asking the people who do believe they have "the one" or soulmate, when did you know they were the one for you?

Pretty early on. A few weeks in. It just all seemed right :) I think it helps to have had others to compare him to. With my first boyfriend I was less sure he wasnt the one, if that makes sense. Now I would be onto that from pretty early on. If I was dating again, which hopefully I never will, I think I would get through lots of relationships fairly quickly cos I know what perfection is.

I was the same. 2 or 3 weeks after I met my now DH, I remember sitting in my flat and crying because I just knew that he was the one. It was so overwhelming, I can't really describe it.

I agree with Nigglenaggle that it does help to a have a point of reference. At the time, I thought I was madly and deeply in love with my first boyfriend (had baby names picked and everything), but from time to time I would doubt whether we were really "right" for each other.

I knew when I was 13
Told my dad I was going to marry him even though I'd never spoken to him ha ha!

We had a brief fling when I was 16 and him 20 and then didn't speak for 7 years, I was with another lad for those 7 years. When we broke up a friend told my DP and he randomly turned up at my door about six months later. Had a coffee. Came round a week later for another coffee. Took me out for a meal to apologise for being a pig when I was 16 and never went home. That was six years ago and our first child is due any day.

I don't know what it was and I probably the least romantic person I know but something about him is just right. We are just right. He ain't the best looking man in the world and his quirks drive me insane at times but I never question him not being here. It's just right.

I'm stil not 100% convinced, 25 years down the line....

Oh I love all these stories. They all make me smile and are all so different. I expected people to say after a few months they knew their oh was the one. I didnt expect it to be weeks for most of you! Ooh I love it

About a month in. I had left to go travelling saying we would see where we were when I returned in 5 months. I had a dream about our wedding, I was home within a month and never looked back :)

First date, I knew he was special, by the third date I knew he was 'the one'.

Within 24 hours.

We went out for lunch following our first drunken night out and spent the whole afternoon laughing and chatting.

14 years on, still very happy together.

After 3 weeks. We were together all the time for the first week, second week I was abroad on holiday, 3rd week we met back up. The rest, as they say, is history. 18 years of it ..

Probably a year in.
He put up with all kinds of shit thrown at him by me.
Truly, i was a cow.

If he didnt answer the door in enough time when i knocked, i would piss off out with my mates.
I was demanding and couldnt be arsed with him and he stuck it out.

SO glad he did becasue 17 years on, he is just lovely, a lovely soul.....needless to say, i am nice to him nowadays

After 4 days and 8 yrs later still happy

The first time he picked me up for a date. When I was 7 I announced to my mum and dad that I wanted to marry a man who had a car with headlights that flipped up (yes, weird I know). When he rolled up that time he had a car whose lights did exactly that (the roof also leaked at my side!) - I just knew it was meant to be (and I was right. We have been together for 16 years and today is our 11th wedding anniversary!

I knew straight away and knew I was right three weeks later!

The headlights flipping up is very Freudian. And the water leaking all over you... hmm - that confirms it.

Anyway, my long term gf and I had just announced our engagement and the ring was on order. I met my now dw and fell for her in a big way, although I knew it was wrong. I called off the engagement - big upset within her family as her dad and I had become really close. Nevertheless, you marry the person first and her family come second.

I pursued the relationship with dw and knew within weeks that I wanted to marry her. She was everything the long term gf was and more besides. However, I was aware of the power of infatuation so we played it long and got married 2 years later. That was 36 years ago and we're still happy and the 2 of us have over the years become 6!!

After our first date, I knew but even before our first date I really, really liked him and can remember the internal phone call he made during work to ask me out:

DH: Hi, I was wondering if you wanted to go out somewhere tonight...you know, maybe if you wanted to I mean...?
Me: Oh...ummm...well I'm already busy tonight...
DH: Ok, how about tomorrow...no wait, I'm busy! Ummm....how about Friday night? Everyone goes out Friday night!!
Me: Ok

After the date, I knew I wasn't going to meet anyone else like him. It was all so easy. Less than two years later we got married, and four and a half years down the line we have two beautiful boys and, even though he has driven me to insanity and back, I can't see us ever parting.

I was married to my second husband, when out without him one night (he was away on holiday) this man walked into the pub and I still remember exactly how he looked and those blue eyes, as he looked straight at me. Within a few weeks I had left my marriage and have been with that man ever since that night.that was nearly six years ago and we have two beautiful baby boys. Am still mesmerised by the blue eyes!

I just knew
Especially when he stood by me when I fell pregnant 3 weeks into our relationship. Most men would have run a mile but he stood by me and supported whatever decision we made. That dc is 6 in 15 days

I felt warm in his company. An I felt I'd always known him.

Fuck, that's cheesy.

I chatted to DP by email for ages then one night finally met him for a drink. We talked for hours then went out to the car park. I stood in front of him and had the oddest feeling in my chest of warmth. We said good night awkwardly and drove off in opposite directions, then he texted to say he had wanted to kiss me.
I knew then he was special. I have felt totally secure, understood and accepted by him without wavering ever since. He gets me like no-one else has ever done. He is eccentric, messy and chaotic, but also kind loving and funny.

Cheesy is nice Arthur

After about 3 months, 6 years ago. We have a 3yo and we're getting married next year. :)

I hate to repeat what I've seen above but 'I just knew'.

I'd had a few serious relationships before DH, even as I was in them I knew I wasn't going to be with them forever.

I knew DH about 3 years before we got together. We knew there was chemistry but we'd both had partners and I was quite a bit younger.

He bought a house with his GF and moved away about 50 miles. I was heartbroken. I thought - this is it. I've lost my chance, they're going to have a baby and get married etc. I barely saw him for 9 months. He phoned me one day upset saying she thought she was pregnant.

A few days later he called to say she wasn't pregnant. I couldn't tell if he was relieved and didn't want to tell him how I felt as I thought he was happy, he'd never had a serious relationship before and I really wanted him to be happy.

Another month passed and I get a call from him. He'd moved out but they were still together. We met up as friends for a chat as he was back living in town. He told me how he loved and cared for her but he just knew that she wasn't the one. He had been unhappy for a while and had gone home that evening, told her he was sorry, packed a bag and left. She had known this was coming and felt it too. I had broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years a few months before but hadn't told him.

This was it. I broke down, I told him I loved him, I had loved him for a long time and that life was too short. I knew he was the one and I'd have told him earlier but I thought he was happy. He kissed me and that was it. I told him we would see each other as friends and take things very slow as him and GF were selling house etc and wanted to give him some time and space. But when we were together it was just heaven, the feeling of electricity and butterflies combined around him.

We moved in together 9 months later, he proposed 6 months after, we got married a year after that and 5 months later I was pregnant with DS. We have been married 5 years now and I am still sooo happy. That passion is still there, I still look at him and get that feeling. I am so lucky to have him.

Definitely within the first week, and he must have known too, as I remember lying on the grass at the park on our first proper 'date' discussing what we would call our children!

That said, as much as he is perfect for me and I for him, I am sure that there are others out there in the world who would also be perfect for us (or as close to perfect as us flawed humans can be...)

So maybe I fit in the OP's bracket of not really believing in the one, just being over the moon that I found one of the maybe handful of men in the world who could be my one.

Love is not seeing yourself with someone, it is someone you can't see yourself without!

Yes, I knew very quickly too.

I was set up to meet a guy my mate thought would be perfect for me. She didn't tell me this, just made me come along to a 21st party with her. She knew there was no way I would have gone if she had told me her intentions.

So I met him at the party. He asked me to marry him after 3 weeks. We got married 10 months later and have been married now for 18 years.

He was, is and always will be "the one".

On the overnight bus back from a school trip. I fell asleep on his shoulder, and woke up with his arm round me. We celebrated our silver wedding anniversary last week. .