He's just taken the kids.....

[onanotherday]

That's it really my 'd'h has just taken the kids for the first of visit to his new flat. Can't believe this is happening, but know I cant do anything to stop this. A year of his mental health issues and now its all down to the 17 years realationship!

I'm not saying that it hasnt taken two to get to this point, but in seeing it I wanted to learn from it and work at it, he didn't.

The boys and I really went through the mill with him this year and thought we had come out the other end and then he walked. The hardest thing is he will not talk about it. I know I have to stop asking but the kids are as confused as me as lately he was the happiest i'd seen him in years.

Our youngest is really struggling and I know we have to sit and talk to them about whats happend and how this will work out, but we are stuck.

Im really stuck as I love him so much. having no family either and living in a town with no friends as we moved 2 years ago is so scary. Added to this hes left me to deal with all the bills and not sure I can keep the house as it has a high rent;(

Are you claiming benefits you are entitled to? Is he paying maintenance?

Sorry, things are raw, they will get easier with time.

Sorry this is happening to you. If you're struggling to accept that the relationship is finally over, you need some real life support. If you're miles from friends and family, get in touch or pay a visit because you need to be with real people at this time. It also helps the practical matters of finance and accommodation if you can get support from others as you make claims for benefits and start talking to solicitors about formalising the separation and getting maintenance payments.

When your love is not reciprocated, that's very hard to deal with. Give yourself time to think rather than automatically agreeing to things like children going to his place. If there's any mental instability involved - and conscious of another father/child tragedy in the news this morning - you need to keep them safe.

Thanks, yes have finally filled in forms for benefit, but as I have been working 2 jobs to keep our heads above water, in theory it looks like i can afford everything. No family both parents dead and no siblings. a few friends but not close by. I think its the dealing with the stonewalling that is the hardest bit.

...and I just cant stop bloody crying. I've worked all day and have to got to my other job this evening. I'm no supprot to the kids...how do I get through???????