Tired, tired, tired

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I always have a lie in at the weekend, then DH has an afternoon nap.

Well I've woken up to him being in a foul mood. He says hes exhausted. He says he feels really ill (I've been pestering him to go to doctors for weeks but he won't)

I've asked him to take a day off work but he says for the next 3weeks theres too much to do.

He says he's fed up of DD 1year wanting to be picked up the whole time (I never find this to be the case)

He says for the last year since DD was born and since I became ill that he's exhausted and never gets time off.

I'm really pissed off with him! DD is a delight, I couldn't help getting ill.

He's also annoyed he has to go help DS 15years get his uniform today. I offered to do it and he said no.

Everything I suggest he dismisses.

I've got to go back to work tomorrow after year maternity and I'm very nervous!

WWYD? Suggest?

Anyone?

He also says he feels bad as I want to do stuff as a family in the afternoons when he's asleep

He sounds like the architect of his own misery TBH. Tell him to go to the doctor, take some vitamins, go to bed early more often and man up.

Also sounds like classic attention seeking on his part. No suggestions aside from a stern word in his ear and a hug, then pack him off for a nap and some hard thinking on looking after himself. No one likes a whiner (can you tell I have no sympathy for malingerers?)

You posted about something similar recently didn't you? Did you take note of any of the advice given then?

OP if he is usually reasonable, then it sounds like he is really exhausted. His unreasonableness and unwillingness to listen are classic symptoms of being so tired that nothing seems manageable anymore.

Could you offer him to have a whole day off next weekend, where he can catch up on sleep/relaxation?

I know that it isn't your fault, and this is probably the last thing you feel like doing when he's being an arse. But, it really does sound like he needs it.

If he's ill he should go to the doctor, especially if it's been going on a while. I am guessing you are responsible to seek help for your own illness? So he should too!

OP this is the man that sleeps for five hours every sat and sun? Tell him to man up or go to the doc. And start hanging out at the weekend as a family, not parenting in shifts.

oh fgs not this again.

Is he suffering from depression? Classic symptoms. Maybe that's why he doesn't want to see the doc, men can be very sensitive about depression IME. If this was a mum complaining of the stuff you say DH is, a lot of people would be suggesting depression.

Sounds a bit like its a competition to see who's the tiredest.
We have them in our house aswell.

All you can really do is eat well and go to bed early and listen to each other.

Also if you sleep in the afternoon you often end up having a really deep sleep. Why don't you each have a lie in instead each on sat or sun and then all go out in the afternoon

Go out with your dd,let him be in a bad mood,let him sort his son out,and let him sleep his life away.
Tbh you post this every week,you get good advice and support but it always seems to fall on deaf ears-what have you done to get out of this situation?
If he is as much of a knob as you describe him then why don't you think about leaving him?
Why do you need so much sleep though?if I remember you send dd to a cm so what is making you need to sleep in all the time?

Hi, we've moved this into Relationships. Thanks.

Please, please listen to previous advice on the many other threads about this situation otherwise why post?