We have been together almost seven years and married almost four. We never used to argue although DH is hard to argue with because he simple switches off and doesn't engage. He also NEVER says sorry. Ever.
Recently his attitude has started to suck with him getting even lazier, always always has an excuse or reason (usually blaming me) for anything. He has also started to treat me like dirt, criticising my driving or my washing up, or watching me on the internet enter an address because 'I am bound to get it wrong'.
Yesterday brought it all to a head and I am strongly considering leaving for the day with DD and just writing him a letter.
I took DD to nursery and he stayed in bed. We had two days off this week to do a lot of work on the house we have just bought. Got home and took him tea but rather than getting gardening gear on he dressed normally. Then hovered around rather than help with the mountain of paperwork I was working through. Then wanted to know when I was cooking lunch and what was for lunch etc but he is perfectly capable of a looking in gte fridge or b walking to the bloody shop to buy food
Eventually I finish and he starts bitching about me not telling him what we are doing today. The house is a tip, worse since he decided to 'unpack boxes' onto floors rather than put them away.
Then we go to diy store, he talks to me like a child etc, starts laughing at me when I suggest he goes to look at the paint. Even though he gas told me I have no eye for colour, and that the colours I like are stupid. They are period colours to suit the house, blues and greens. We go for lunch, he looks like scruffy twat with a hoody, dirty t shirt and ancient trainers. We get to have lunch on our own maybe every six months.
He then turned on DD when she woke up screaming, he was so nasty to her I considered pushing him out the door. It was real vitriolic nastiness. He acts like she is the biggest mistake of his life. She is amazing but a terrible sleeper. Turns out she is running a temperature.
He is no longer the mild mannered fun but stable man I married. I now do not enjoy being around him when he has amamoopsd on. He reminds me of my six year old nephew in his strips. Dh also forces the sex issue, I.e. he feels entitled to sex whenever e wants.
DD is 2. She almost died at birth and has brain damage but doing ok ish. He never recognises toddlers are Hard work and is mean to her, snatching from her anything she has picked up and shouldn't have. When we go to his Munster or anyone cones over he treats her as if she is the apple of his eye. I am a post grad and