marriage not working

[bhk3]

since my dd born 4 years back my relationship has become strange with my dh. he is more concerned about dd. we sleep in the same bed but have no physical realtionship since the child was born. Please help what should I do...or is it normal???? :(

I'm sure you know that, although it's not uncommon in some relationships, it's not normal for a couple to abstain from sexual relations for such a long period after the birth of child.

Have you talked to your dh about this issue? Do you make time to be alone together by spending child free weekends away or having date nights?

i tried talking to dh many times but he seems to be not bothered...i guess we both are too busy in our profession..but I am scared of the results

What do you mean by saying you are 'scared of the results'? Have you tried to initiate sex with him and been rebuffed?

What was your sex life like before your dd was born?

I am scared of the consequences... we are living in the same house but like strangers... I am worried if the marriage would work for long...which in result might affect my dd's future. My sex life was pretty good earlier

It doesn't sound as if your marriage has been working for some years.

What do you think may have caused this hiatus? Does your dh smoke cannabis, does he seem unduly stressed or depressed, is he addicted to porn, could it be that he has another woman tucked away somewhere?

It's hard to bring things to crisis point (cos then it feels like you're the one breaking the relationship - but actually it sounds like it's already broken - it's whether it can be fixed).

If you drag on this way, it's going to give your dd a peculiar idea of what relationships are. An atmosphere where the parents are distant and like strangers isn't necessarily better than the other options.

i tried to get out of this relationiship two years bk but couldnt since i have no help from family my mom passed away and inlaws never bother and i found myself very hard with the child. I do understand that this relationship seems to go nowhere but still knowingly I am dragging it which in result making me depressed and negative about life :(

To my knowledge dh is not into any kinda addiction...he is very much close to my dd and cares a lot for her

If you want out, get out. Tell him it's over and talk to a solicitor. If you've told him how you feel and he does nothing then he simply doesn't care. Your DD will still have you as parents even if you split up and you'll probably be happier apart than together. Life is far too short to waste it with someone you don't like.