DH not always fully erect

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We have frequent sex and a very close happy relationship, but about half the time we have sex dh is only semi erect. This makes me feel a bit bad as i feel that i am not turning him on enough. He denies this and doesn't actually seem to realise when he is only semi erect. When he is hard sex is perfect, but this is slightly overshadowed by the other times. Any advice appreciated.

My exH had this on and off for years from about 23yo. We went to the GP who did basics, blood pressure etc then just prescribed Viagra. ExH didn't want to take viagra due to health risks and also expense (we were penniless at the time) so we muddled along. We went to some sex counseling which was bollox. No one could see any reason for us having this problem (he woke up with erections). Now we are divorced and he is with someone else it isn't a problem at all, so it must have been me.

I disagree with Malificence, not many men at his age are getting full erections for full penetrative sex everyday. I would be happy with 4 times per week tbh. That's more than i have ever had with anyone i have ever been with.

@ Spuddybean - Erm how do you know it's all fine with your exes new partner? Unless you are actually there to witness it I wouldn't believe it if he's telling you that, he's hardly going to tell the ex 'oh yea it's still an issue' is he? Mind you it seems odd to discuss it in the first place. But yea I find it unlikely he would tell you if he still had a problem so don't take that to heart.. in fact it seems rather a cruel thing to say to an ex if you ask me....

Yes it would sunday but no he hasn't told me. His new partner is an old friend. It turns out it was a psychological block with me. He adored me, put me on a pedestal and just found it very hard to be 'sexy with me' - it's why we split.

I had an ex who also like his although he had been in an accident many years ago and his was a result of nerve damage to the groin. any history of accidents etc?
I thought it was just me but had also happened to a mutual friends friend I found out afterwards (small town!)

My DP can suffer from this, he is late 30's incredibly fit & healthy to the outside world, walks/runs/cycles for miles. He is a diabetic and also has higher bp than they would like. He manages his conditions better than other I know but still can have episodes where he is not fully erect. BTW - he only found out he was diabetic at a routine medical for a new job!

My DP gets this sometimes, we have sex once a day (usually) also. He stops him self cumming sometimes because he doesn't want it to 'end' that soon and this is mainly what causes it. Once he has stopped him self he will start to loose it and it takes a lot of effort to get him there again (is this tmi? Sorry)

Does your DP do this? I keep telling him, if your there just go with it but he is a bit too 'thoughtful' a bout such things!

DP is 40 btw

In my experience, some guys are just like this. They flag along the way. It is annoying - I feel like their dick is getting bored.

Is it certain positions in particular that this happens with?

How are you all having sex once a day fgs! Some days I barely get to shit on my own or find 5 mins to read let alone have sex

foxinsocks

I'm the same. Must try harder!

Maybe you need to check for unexpected items first?

foxinsocks DP has a DD we have 40% of the time so we have no full time DC at the moment, I imagine that's why we can have sex everyday. I'm sure it will change a bit when we do have a DC although I am nievely hoping it doesn't! ;)