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I want to change my facebook relationship status

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HairyArmPit · 30/08/2012 20:02

Been seeing someone for just over two months. Become very close in that time, I'm currently abroad without him and missing him terribly. He texts me daily and has turned down an opportunity to work abroad for a month as he says he'd miss me too much. We're so 'steady' we have things booked and paid for late into this year and even going in to next.

I know its only been two months, but in these circumstances, is it ok for me to change my Facebook relationship status or will it make me seem a bit crazy?

I know it seems a bit juevenile but i constantly see relationship status updates on my newsfeed and can't help thinking mine should be updated!?

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Houseofplain · 30/08/2012 20:11

Is changing your Facebook status....the new equivalent to will you be my boyfriend? Does it matter?

NasalCrayon · 30/08/2012 20:11

What does he think? If you both want to then go for it.

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HairyArmPit · 30/08/2012 20:12

No we've already established the boyfriend/girlfriend thing :-D LOL

It's just me, just something I want to do but don't want to look a tit or make him feel that I'm a danger to his pet rabbit

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HairyArmPit · 30/08/2012 20:14

I've not spoken to him about it so no idea how he feels on it. It's not like ill be doing it and then waiting for him to do the same either, I'm not bothered whether he does or not. I just want to change it on mine

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Hassled · 30/08/2012 20:15

Two months isn't long. I appreciate it all seems lovely and fluffy now, and I really hope it stays that way, but you're probably still in the sort of timescale where he could yet reveal himself as a nutter - and the more people you tell now, the more people you have to tell if it all goes badly wrong. I think sit on it and see how you feel in a month or so.

OhEmGee24 · 30/08/2012 20:56

Just leave your relationship status blank for now. Seriously, it's only bloody Facebook!

squeakytoy · 30/08/2012 20:58

What OhEm said...

It really is only facebook!!

gingerpig · 30/08/2012 21:09

I think if you feel you are in a relationship and want to change it then just do it. it's not something to be ashamed of! you don't have to link it to his after all.

TheOriginalNutcracker · 30/08/2012 21:11

I think he'd have to confirm it before it appeared anyway.

OhEmGee24 · 30/08/2012 21:14

Can't you just have "in a relationship" rather than "in a relationship with John Smith"?

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HairyArmPit · 31/08/2012 07:11

Yeah I wasn't going to link it to his, that's up for him to do. I was just going to change mine to 'in a relationship' and leave it at that.
Might just wait a few more weeks though. It's just that my friends are with someone a week before they change their relationship status. I know its sad but I'm dying to change it Blush

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OhEmGee24 · 31/08/2012 08:06

Well then change it. If he says "err what you doing putting that on"? then he knows he's a spanner. Or just ask him outright. My bf and I had "the Facebook" chat (that sounds so unbelievably sad!) after being bf/gf for about 3 months but tbh it never was a big deal to me.

LoveisaLaserquest · 31/08/2012 08:10

I would leave it blank. I always think people who "play out" relationships over Facebook are doing it for the benefit of others. You know you're in a relationship, he knows you're in a relationship, and that's what's important.

SirSugar · 31/08/2012 21:18

Delete FB account, problem solved work of devil

Eurostar · 31/08/2012 21:26

So you want to update your status to fit in with the crowd? Why does it matter to you so much what others know? Why people put all this stuff out in the public domain, is, I have to admit, a bit of a mystery to me, generation gap I suppose.

Dryjuice25 · 01/09/2012 01:14

Is it a competition .....really?

GentleLentilWeaver · 01/09/2012 11:05

When I wanted very badly to update my FB relationship status, it was to convince myself that something could go the distance. I.e I was feeling insecure and it seemed reassuring. It's not really - it doesn't change anything. It's just a form of bragging really, and the best time to brag is when you have something to shout about, i.e when you have been together a good amount of time or are getting engaged or whatever. Just my twopennyworth.

bigTillyMint · 01/09/2012 11:09

I only just updated my FB status to married. We have been married over 12 yearsGrin

HooNose · 01/09/2012 11:12

Why can't you talk to him about this? To me, that is an indication that you are not truly a couple. I would talk to my husband about anything - even when we had only known each other 2 months.

LB1982 · 01/09/2012 19:33

I say just do it :)

And then come back to let us know what happens :)

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