High Maintenance!?!

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I've Changed my name so dp doesn't read this , he knows I am addicted to MN :)

I am after opinions of what constitutes being "high maintenance" in a relationship.

To cut a long story short since being with dp for nearly 2 yrs on numerous occasions he has called me this,
The reasons being :

I told him a friends husbands buys her flowers every week said how sweet
was of him, - apparently liking to be bought flowers or anything is
considered "high maintenance" and "princess like" in his head and he
"couldn't possibly be with anyone who expects him to spend money on
them"

  ( His ex wife was from a wealthy family and he has said before for 
    birthdays etc she expected expensive presents from him so whether this 
  could be a factor?! )

When we have sex ( tmi I'm sorry :) ) he's very set in his ways and its
always been all about him, he likes to be in control completely and doesn't
like any sort of dominance from me ie: position changing etc, he prefers
bjs I think because he has said he's lazy !
but after he cums he just either falls asleep or carries on watching tv,
he never thinks maybe I would like a bit of attention from him

I have said to him I would like him to touch me more , he replies "yes I was
only thinking about that today actually " but nothing normally comes from it,
So I joked last night when he said "that was a lovely bj you gave me last
night"
I smiled and said i'm glad you like it but I'm feeling a bit neglected, this is
when once again he said i'm " high maintenance in keeping me happy " ffs !!

So I'm am after opinions please , maybe I am and I just can't see it !!!

Umm, no. You are not high maintenance! He sounds very selfish and probably calls you that because he knows that no one would really tolerate him unless they had low standards. I think you know that something's up.

Hi

Look at the top of your post lovey see that name you typed, thats my advice..seriously.. he is the high maintenance he is someone elses ex for a reason.

High maintenance is prick code for saying "you have no rights in our relationship, it is all about me. Shut up"

Start calling him high maintenance when he next wants a blow job!

He's incredibly selfish and needs to be introduced to the phrase 'women come first' - this isn't because women are selfish but because falling asleep for a man after orgasm is pretty biologically normal.

And it sounds like he's saying that you're 'high maintenance' if you complain in any way

Stop doing blowjobs - in your releationship they demean you. Or leave him, he's a twat.

He sounds like a lazy git to be honest, doesn't want to put any effort in at all does he?

Prick code

My ex accused me of being 'high maintenance' - because I had the gall to protest about a birthday present that was handed to me, unwrapped in a brown paper bag, with the price tag still on.

Yep. He's the high maintenance one. Certainly not you!

He sounds demanding, controlling, selfish and high maintenance. He doesn't seem to take either your feelings or needs into account. And you are with him because...?

Peacocklady Thu 30-Aug-12 10:09:16

Start calling him high maintenance when he next wants a blow job!

Is the correct answer. He's a selfish fucker.

No but you are with a twat.

What do you get out of this relationship now, why are you with such a man?.

Think you need to set your own relationship bar a lot higher than it already is because you really do deserve better.

Agree with other posts please think what you are gaining form being with a selfish *** like this , you deserve so much more than having to ask to be pleased by him , he is a selfish man , hope it works out for you .

Only a selfish git would think one-sided BJs constituted a good sex-life. What do you say afterwards? "Leave your money on the table on the way out?" Wouldn't waste any more time on him.

He sounds selfish and really quite horrible. How long have you been together and what was it about him that made you want to be in a relationship with him? I'm assuming he must have changed because he sounds quite unappealing.

I always think that actually being called 'high maintenance' is a compliment when used by arsehole males
But for your clarification- flowers once a week and touching during sex is in NO WAY being demanding. He is just a lazy fucker (literally).

You sound perfectly normal, he sounds awful. Why are you still with him?

Is he serious when he says this, or joking?

I couldn't believe someone would say this seriously.