Counselling or kick up the jacksy?

[niceglasses]

Would really appreciate some thoughts on this one, though know its down to me in the end. Was going to change me name, but what the heck.........

I've recently started some counselling, due mainly to a number of reasons - probably depression, loss of self esteem, some elements of an addiction (to ashamed to say what exactly) - odd relationships with mother and sister probably caused by odd/oppressive up bringing, but nothing abusive I woudl think. The thing that doesn't sit easy with me and is making me constantly want to stop it is that I'm sure lots and lots of pple have horrendous childhoods and just get on with it. The counsellor seems good (but I have nothing to comapre it with) but shes so nice to me.....

I suppose ultimatley it comes down to wether it is helping and I suppose it is. I just feel so stupid and weak and well like I should pull myself together by myself sort of thing. Anyone been through anything similar????

I had a horrendous childhood and counselling definitely helped

keep going, and use the experience as a way of learning some new/different ways of coping/reacting. Don't sabotage yourself by saying you should just "pull it together", but instead concentrate on learning all you can so that you can construct a better life. Good luck.

I have found counselling really helpful. It should help you to recognise why you do certain things, so if they are things you want to change then you can.
Lots of people have crumby childhoods and you can learn limiting patterns of behaviour as a result, so why not enjoy the counselling you are receiving and go forward with it.

I used to feel that way tooas if I didn't deserve help because there were plenty of people whose childhoods were worse than minebut actually, you can never tell how others are coping. Many of us are talented at putting on a false front. People thought I was incredibly together, but I was bulimic, suicidal, and suffering in silence. Tell your therapist exactly how you are feeling and it'll help you heal.
Good luck!

Not personally but both my Mum and my sister have. It helped enormously and they are both much happier people because of it.
Don't feel bad - go with whatever works for you and well done for going for it in the first place.

Hi Niceglasses - seem to be in pretty much same situation as you. Have had some experience of change through the counselling so I feel encouraged to carry on. You certainly aren't stupid and weak to go through this - it takes alot of guts to face stuff from the past!

I don't think it depends entirely on your circumstances (bad childhood, obsessiveness whatever) but more on your ability to deal with it.

We're all different and we all have diff needs.

No kicking for your jacksy nice glasses Part of having self esteem issues can make you feel you don't deserve the things that make you feel better. If you've found a good counsellor get stuck in.

Thanks folks - itching to cancel next appt but know I shouldnt.....thanks for replying.

Don't cancel, go along and tell her/him how you've been feeling.