First ever one night stand - oh the shame...........

[DLCC]

I?m not quite sure whether I?m looking for advice/a telling off or what really but I need to get this off my chest. I?m 40 years old, have two children, 8 and 3, I have been separated for 2.5 years. Since I separated from my husband I have dated two guys for 3 months each and that has been it. Anyway Friday night I went on a rare night out with girlfriends to a club with a hotel attached, as it was a fair way from home so myself and my friends decided to stay over, to cut a long story short I had a one night stand which I am in full on cringe mode about. I have never done it before and just feel awful. He was a nice guy, we stayed in his room and in the morning he was very affectionate and attentive, asked for my number (which I?m not even sure I gave him the right one as I was a tad hungover!) and said he?d meet me downstairs for coffee once I?d gone back to my room and showered etc. We did this for a couple of hours and it was ok, not sure he was totally my type in the cold light of day but nice enough. Said our goodbyes and that was it. I just feel really, really ashamed of myself. I?ve never done that before and feel totally crap about myself?..

[mirry2]

Sorry to hijack but -houseofplain -we meet again

[Margerykemp]

You have nothing to be ashamed of!

[Houseofplain]

Erm what?

[izzyizin]

There's no shame and no blame in a one night stand and that applies to any repeat performances.

[daisychain01]

He sounds like a fab ONS, and hey he's texted you now.

Could he be a keeper?

[Verticalvenetianblinds]

2nd 5 year old thread thats been bought back tonight! ZOMBIE!

[bloodymaria]

It's like a George A Romero movie around here tonight.

[Verticalvenetianblinds]

their coming to get you barbara

[Greaterthanthesumoftheparts]

I slept with my partner the night we met, we're getting married in 8 weeks :-)

Nice girls get to have no strings sex too!

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

Luckily I checked the date on this one before investing too much interest in it.

[sucue]

Wonder how the second date went. They may have 3 kids by now.

[Dadaist]

The only question you need to ask when deciding if you've done anything wrong is 'am I hurting anyone in doing this?' You are two consenting adults!!
Did you declare your undying love and promise to marry him if he slept with you, after lying about who you were and making out you were a fabulous catch?
If not then where is the harm? I hope it was fun - if a bit weird - they usually are in my (long ago) experience!

[Dadaist]

Argh - Zombie damnit!!

[Gah81]

Oh no, don't feel ashamed! Consenting adults are perfectly entitled to sleep with whoever they want, whenever they want, after however long they've known the other person for - as long as it doesn't hurt yourself or others (emotionally or physically).

Sounds like a fantastic night!

[Gah81]

Oops - just read the comments about the date stamp. That'll teach me for not reading the whole thread [grins]