Just want to rant really. Brief history - My EX partner, father to DS left us 9 years ago when DS was just 2.
He was/is? an alcoholic ,
Fathered a child a few years later, walked out on that child aged 1 month
Lied, Lied, Lied... you name it he lied about it.
Anyway, my son has been in phone contact and the occasional visit over the last year and half...( at my DS wishes, not his fathers I add).
I have bent over backwards to facilitate these phone calls/meeting, Ie Phone him when he's got no credit on his phone, have him and his girlfriend, with her son at my house to visit. I do this so my son feels happy and secure.
He was meant to visit last week, he cancelled the day before, no explication,just said he would re-arrange. I later found out him and gf went to a spa for the day. He didn't call last night as arranged either. So I text this morning, asking if there was a problem due to cancelled day and no phone call. I then received one hour of abusive texts.
Saying that I've ruined his life, I'm unfair, a bully, kept his son away from him, never to speak to him again, I turned him to drink, I kicked him out of his home and was seeing OM, I frighten him, I can't lecture him any more, on and on it goes.
To say I'm upset is an understatement. He was having affair NOT me, he ran up lot's of debt, he never paid CM, he never turned up in the early days to see his son, was in pub drunk. I could go on and on.
Sorry for the long rant....just needed to get it off my chest. Even now, 8 years on the unfairness is just crippling.