Is my mil selfish and lazy?

[itsme123]

i am just letting off a bit of steam here as i have lost my voice in RL!!!
My mum in law staying with us. Arrived yesterday.
I have been ill since Thursday - didnt get out of bed til this morning when i went to docs.
My wash basket is full, my ironing basket is full. What does she do? Watch tv. All the time. Or read the paper. Sits our lo on her knee. I can hear our lo crying when i am in bed. I get upset - i take it out on dh.
My beloved Dh has spent the whole time trying
his best. He even came home from work early today. He has made tea for everyone amongst lots of other things
I found 2 terry nappies in the bin today (WTF) and noticed the same cold water had been used all day to clean lo's bum. (not dh's fault)
my mum says to leave them to get on with it and she will come and collect our ironing and do it for me.(she works full time as well)
as i say i am not expeecting any answers, am just venting!

Sympathies, sounds like my MIL.

poor you , how long have u got her staying with u? was it just a HELLO visit or i'll can come and help visit, some mothers are just as bad.

if u dont care much about her then let her know subtley how things are

could be that she's worried that you would see her help as interfering?

or maybe she just considers herself to be your guest - would you do the washing at her house?

I can never fathom how some people can be so blind to the needs of others

You have my sympathies

Thanks for the sympathies, wasnt expecting them. she staying a week - it was arranged a couple of weeks ago when all was Ok in itsme123 household!
I wouldnt do the washing at her house- however if she was ill i would offer my help and see if there was anythig i could do. (i do the washing up when we go there though!)
Must go and wash up now - poor dh is shattered.

didn't mean to sound unsympathetic. its just often it seems to me that MIL's can do nothing right. (i don't have one and i'm a little jealous). maybe your DH could indicate that some help would be appreciated?

How difficult - why some people don't think to help - or even ask if their help is needed!!