My poor darling BF/Sis has just been dumped

[CuriousMama]

She just rang me in bits. She met a guy a few months back who seemed lovely. She's supported him through his woes with exdw. They're only separated though, getting divorced soon. He's just been away with his son and rang her daily or texted. He came back a week ago. He went to the dentist with her 3 days ago and she was told she has to have all her teeth removed She fell once and it started off a lot of problems. He just dumped her in a pub

I know it happens but it makes my blood boil how in one breath he loves her, in the next he's scared and has to end it. He was ever so kind to say he'd still support her though

She just wants to be with me. Her big sis. I'm not her real big sis but we sort of adopted each other as she never met her real blood family (long long story) and I said she could be my sis. I live out of town now and no buses at this time. Dp's at work as he works nights.

If she takes tomorrow off work I'll go through and hand hold, squeeze her and ply her with whatever she wants.

I think he was a coward telling her in the pub. Didn't want a scene imo.

Alarm bells rang with me tbh. A few things he said about exdw and thing exdw had done recently. All sounded a bit off?

it's hard on her but everyone has a right to leave a relationship.
She'll get over it.

I know but it's the lies. Loves her this morning, dumps her tonight.

I know I am boring, and say this all the time, but you have to judge someone on their actions and not just on what they say (if they say nice things, very nice, but they need to match their actions). She's found out the hard way that he's not in for the long haul and won't be there if she gets sick. Better to know now. I take what you are saying, but often in the moment, we feel one way and then in another moment, things change. I have certainly liked boyfriends but at one point it just got too much and dumped them. It doesn't mean I didn't like them during the relationship but it did mean I didn't want to continue.

You are a great big sis and that's the best cure for a broken heart, plenty of moaning and tissues and ice cream, she will thank you for it.