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big argument over nothing, been called all the names under the sun, whore, slag, bitch, cunt, useless, worthless, been grabbed by the wrist and hit on the arms and then he tried to hit me so i fought bac and slapped him and he hit me so hard twice i wentto the floor and now my jaw hurrts and i dont know what to do what to think how to act

Call the police. Now. Are there kids in the house?

No kids. My daughter is with her dad. He has gone to bed and I feel stupid and like i have pushed him and woudn him up

Hekept saying i had been aggressiveto him but i hadn/t He hit me first, he was "playing" and grabbing me and squeezing my wrist and sayig it was a joke and just being funny but then he started being nastier and i slapped him back quite hard on the arms so i did hit back so im not blame less

Can you leave? Go somewhere else, please don't just stay there. You know you've done nothing to justify this. Has it happened before?

He hit me a lot about 2 years ago, I spose it can be called "beaten up" he did it 3 times, it wasnt awful like some women have, he hit and punched and smashed up my phone and broke my granite chopping board when he smashed my phone up and threw furniture around into the walls and but he aws so sorry after and cried and irt hasnt happened since then until now but i did hit him back so its not likke he just hit me i did hit him back on the arms

im sorry bout all the spellling istakes my hands are skahy

i mean shaky

Please leave, do you have friends or family nearby? You hitting back doesn't lessen what he has done. This will keep happening unless you put a stop to it

You hitting back was self defense hunny, get the police involved and please stop blaming yourself this is abuse, if the house is in your name please kick him out or can you go somewhere safe x

My mum and dad are near but they are on holiday until monday and my mum is of the "you made your bed lie in it" type. he isnt gong to do anything tonight hes sasleep i think im responsible tho he kept talking about how i dont do anything because im not workin g and im worthless an d taking his money and useless and cant look after my dau ghter

he turns it round though he says i started it i wanted a fight i scratched him but he kept scraching me and squeezing my wrists and i have a big lump onmy wrist and a bruise where he wouldnt let go but he kept saying just because he didnt bruise it didnt mean i hadnt abuesed him

i hear him mobing around i hav eto go thanks for listening

Please call the police and have this awful man removed from your house and your life.

He is lying, it is not true that you started it, it is not true that you are as bad as each other. You slapped him to get him off you when he was already hurting you and wouldn't stop. Striking back in self-defence is not abuse. You need protection from this man, he's dangerous. That's what the police are for. Call them while you still have proof, and get somebody strong to be with you if at all possible. Not all police are terribly good on domestic violence so you may have to insist on seeing their DV specialist.

Your mum is wrong, wrong, wrong about making your bed and lying in it. You made a bed with what you thought was a decent man. He smashed the bed up (metaphorically speaking) so it is all full of splinters. Why should you now have to lie in that? You made it, he broke it.

Get him OUT of the house.

He has form, he will do this again, what, a FIFTH time?.... You slapped him BACK to try to stop him. It is NOT your fault.

Honey, please see that you cannot trust this man again.

Can you ask a friend to come and stay? What about your DDs father? Is your relationship with him good, could he help? Please... Now is not the time to.be ashamed, it is the time to act and RL support is the best thing for you.

Keep posting and let us know how you are.

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