DH seems to have downed tools.

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DH and I are effectively split. But, due to me having nowhere else to go, we are still living in the same house.
I sleep in a different room and to all intents and purposes, we are not together.
However, since I initiated this he has basically stopped all parenting. He no longer seems to want to play with or help out at all with DCs.
This has culminted tonight in me being extremely pissed off. DCs have been fighting all evening and he has just sat watching TV whilst I have attempted to keep the peace, feed, bathe and get them to bed.
I had a very quick shower earlier and I could hear them shouting and fighting.....DH did nothing. When I emerged from the bathroom I found that chaos had erupted with DS1 trying to eject DD and DS2 out of his bedroom.
DH had just let this occur and had carried on watching TV.
It seems he has relinquished all parental duties now we are no longer together (and he is not getting his leg over).
Am so angry but don't know what to do.
Help!!!

Do you plan to split properly and live separately? If so I would try to grin and bare it - he'll have a shock on access weekends and you can be smug :)

Yep
I agree

Can't he move out?
Do your dc's notice his lack of parenting?

If you're married, you have as much claim on the house as he does, so why don't you get him to move out?

It's only possible to remain in the same house with a partner you're separating from if both of you are reasonable people. Are you separating because he was lazy and selfish in the first place? If so, he's not going to change, so it would be a good idea to talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are - it is possible that he can be made to leave the house but still contribute to the mortgage, for instance.

I'd be pissed off too, but was your split unexpected for him? And how long had you been together? It may be that he's just in total shock? I've been totally floored by things far more minor than a marriage breakdown and it may just be that he's kind of paralysed with anxiety and surprise? But if it was a long time coming maybe he is just selfish or a bit malicious.