Feeling Desperate

[Pseudonymity]

Any tips for how to get through the worst? Alcohol hasn't worked, no surprises there.

It is a mega-crush situation, someone I've felt drawn to for years, something I tried to ignore for years and then it almost happened. I think he does like me but our situations mean it isn't going to work.

I can keep reminding myself of the good things about myself, I've got a lot going for me really, I know that. I don't need him, I've never needed him but I do want him. I'm desperate and feeling the loss of something that could have been so wonderful. Of course, it is made so much worse by the fact that we've had some intimacy and got on really well.

Are you married,single or divorced,and what age are you.

I've just ordered a seafood pizza.

Well, I'm in a long-term relationship but sadly it is coming to an end.

I can't eat. Mope, mope.

HairyArmPit,am I missing something?

Pseudonymity,is the long term relationship coming to an end because of the crush?

The crush is one factor in why it is coming to an end. The fact I have repressed the crush and somehow managed to make it a lot worse is another factor. But, there are many other issues that were there before the crush. Sigh.

Have you got a friend that can be there for you tonight.

Similar situation here - wanting someone I totally fell in love with and now just can't have, although due to the whole situation I have no sympathy or support from friends or family (and understandably so).

Tips for getting through the worst - smoking and drinking - I've gone from a social smoker/drinker to a far too regular smoker/drinker .

No, seriously, I'm spending tons of time at the gym (my heart is broken but my stomach and thighs look amazing!!), trying to keep busy, reading, taken up a new hobby, and generally being good to myself in any way I can.

Google distraction techniques too - for those times when you just can't switch your brain off.

I'm actually feeling a little better since coming on here. Thanks. Last night was the real horror. Bought some cigarettes, smoked two, left them in the hotel room where I slept (alone). I'm well and truly not a smoker anymore, that's safe to say, and I've never been so good at drinking.

I do have friends but I feel afraid to burden them, especially as they mostly have children (I don't). Also, it's difficult as many of our friends are shared in my long-term relationship.

There are just times of real longing, questioning, fear.