Opinions please.

[Nightwish]

Woke up this morning and DP told me about a random conversation he had with my friend at 4am this morning online.
He mentioned it was weird and funny, she had been up because she was hot and wasn't wearing any clothes.
The way he said it made me think so had a look.
(Yes he does sound like he can't type or speak properly, please ignore that, and that is with me adding correct punctuation in some places!)

DP - Am I the only person online atm?

Friend: Was sweating like hell so had to whip my top off
And yeah pretty much.

DP - Haha I thought so. I hardly talk to you, then, BAM out of the blue a random conversation xD but its cool I like random convos . Will have to delete this one off my comp though haha cause you keep mentioning taking your cloths off, Nightwish would go mad xD

Friend - Ahha I didn't think of that

DP - haha I don't care Nightwish trys to wrap me up in cotton wool , any way how have you been?

Friend - Ha well she won't have to know that I'm talking to u topless
I'm pretty good summer draggin a bit though

DP- lol putting images into my head now xD nice one
Is it summer yet ? I couldn't tell lol?

Friend - Lol you'll have to delete those images from your head too.
Yeah summers been pretty shit, now its almost over.

DP - She can't see those don't worry xD

Normal? Not normal?
Banter?

Eugh, I am very tired, stayed up most of the night to finish my university work for the deadline today, and I make an awful tired person so would like some perspective.

And the, yes you should not have looked, well it was the way he explained it to me this morning because he obviously saw a problem with it, or knew I would not be impressed, therefore was damage limiting in my eyes.

Was the chat on fb or MSN? Do you have his password I take it?

nightwish I think your friend was out of order with the topless carry on. She was clearly after some attention and your DP just fell for it. He was a bit stupid but I could see my DP ending up in a situation like that on chat. He gets women coming on to him to.

He told you, didn't delete. My view is that you've nothing to worry about re him but I'd have something to say to her the silly cow.

I still can't help thinking you could have a real laugh pretending to be your H and chatting to her online! You could put her off ever chatting him up again but in a funny way!

I do know his passwords but didn't use them.
He used my laptop a while ago whilst his computer wasn't working but used a different internet browser.
I found he hadn't bothered logging off.

Oh Dont you are tempting me now.

But I think in my mind they are both at fault, not just her.
I don't understand why he told me though.
Just in case I saw it?

What's the rest of your relationship like, OP?

For what it's worth, I would be livid with both.

He told you about it, which actually suggests he wanted you to read it. Which suggests to me not WAAAA! BREACH OF MONOGAMY IMMINENT! CALL THE POLICE but a rather passive-agressive way of communicating to you that he's not happy about something. It could be that he is a bit bored with the relationship, it could be that he wants the world to believe that he's a maverick free spirit who can't be chained to domesticity, or he could be trying to tell you that he wants more sex/you to feed his ego a lot more by demonstrating that Other Women find him attractive. Only he's made himself look a manipulative prat in the process.

Talk about your ingrowing toe nails, your problem with halitosis etc

Being serious for a moment, I think SGB is into something.

Agree with sgb
He sounds like a twat.

It would wind me up. At best it's totally disrespectful to you by both of them.

OP I think he told you because in the cold light of day he knew he had overstepped the mark and was worried your 'friend' would tell you.
She sounds like a predatory bitch and I would be putting some distance between you and her and fast.
There is absolutely NO reason to tell anyone what state of undress you are in when you are online or otherwise. She was flirting big style with your DP and clearly has no respect for you to do so. He just comes across as an idiot and had no reason to slate you in the way he did 'wraps me in cotton wool etc'
If he was my DP I'd be wrapping his in concrete this morning and he would know about it.
Delete you friend and have nothing more to do with her. You don't need 'friends' like that!

Going to talk to him in a minute about it.
Undecided what to do about the 'friend' as of yet.

I guess his comment about 'wrapping him in cotton wool' has made me feel stupid to feel annoyed about it.

Actually, I have decided friend is at fault to.

Just re read the message with him.
And realised the last message from her when she said she was going offline was;

'And enjoy the mental imagry '

Spelling mistake and all!
Eugh.

I am unsure whether to speak to her or just leave it and completely distance myself from her.
Not that I see her often anyway.

I wanted to talk to her but I don't know what good it will do, it probably won't change her behaviour towards anyone in the future.

Definetely sounds like flirtacious behaviour to me, i wouldn't like it.