He's just being an arse again, isn't he?

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In the process of divorce. It's not much fun and he has said some horrible lies about me in the divorce petition. My solicitor has asked his solicitor to take them out and reword it.

On the phone to him a while ago (about contact arrangements) he said "My solicitor says yours really isn't very good. I thought you'd like the heads up on that"

This is another game play isn't it? My solicitor seems ok, if a tiny bit fighty.

Argh. Every time I feel all together he floors me with a new thing.

(My solicitor said his was very nasty indeed. I REALLY don't want to play these games or even hear it, I just want it over.)

Yes he is being an arse.

If your solicitor is "fighty" that's a good thing in these circs, I'd have thought.

Ignore the bastard. Stick with the solicitor if you're happy with him/her. Trust your instincts. You're divorcing this man for a reason; it's not in his interests to like your solicitor. It is none of his business.

Good luck.

Yep, being an arse.

I'd ignore. You're already giving him the 'head's up' of letting him know he was a lousy husband by divorcing him . Honestly, what a tool

Indeed...ignore any "advise" your soon to be ex deigns to give you. There is a reason he would want you to have a less " fighty" solicitor. You absolutely need someone able to stand up to your ex and his Nast council. Good luck..I have been there..

Agreed. Arse.

I'd also suggest, if at all possible, that all communication is done via your solicitor, OP.

Game playing, mine does this, he has a solicitor he goes to where all people with no hope go......arse.

If he is trying to make you get a different solicitor, my suspicion would be that the current solicitor was a bit too good for his liking. After all, he'd want you to be represented by someone incompetent, wouldn't he? So the likelihood is that if your solicitor really was rubbish he wouldn't say a word.

May I suggest the response a colleague used to use: "Thank you for your input."

Yes he is being an arse and his solicitor is being an arse for saying it (if he even did).

My DH and I are taking legal action against someone at the moment and it is all very fighty (our solicitor is a rottweiler!). We all had a face to face meeting, which was hideous, and afterwards our solicitor told us the other solicitor was very good even though they had been ripping legal chunks out of each other during the meeting. Made me admire how professional he was. Fighty is good by the way. You really need someone on your side.

Agree that your ex is playing games and trying to whittle down your confidence in your solicitor.

Thank you.

Reading those replies has made me feel better. I really need to get out of the habit of trusting anything he says. But I was so dependent on him for such a long time.

Grrr.

Ignore him it's his sick game and he's trying to get at you.

Try not to be drawn into conversation with him, if you must have contact then stick to yes and no answers.

My ex used calls about DC to start with me until I done this myself, he would scream and shout abusive crap or just his general cunty shite down the phone and I would give 1 word answers....it infuriated him and me at times but he soon got the message.

My immediate response was the same as Anniegetyourgun. He's running scared, I think your solicitor is a bit good for his liking....
I would strongly suggest that you insist he only contacts you in writing ie text / email as you will then have proof of his nonsense should you need it. Anything said over the phone, you can't prove.....

Arse. For all the reasons above.

It is extremely kind of him, I think, to be concerned that you should use a 'less fighty' solicitor to divorce him with