There is hope, girls!

[Abitwobblynow]

Sometimes being on MN and finding out how many twunts there are out there, is dispiriting.

There is a sociologist called Catherine Hakim, who has written a book advocating infidelity as a marraige saver. Apparently we have pathetic old fashioned ideas, and as long as men are discreet, it's all a good thing.

Google The Telegraph. And the comments, which are reactions from (mainly) MEN.

Very heartening. Why didn't I find one of them!

She was on woman's hour earlier today. Not sure what to think tbh, some truth in it. Having lived in other cultures/countries can see how it can work, bloody painful though...

Salb, for me who has been so disillusioned it was a real salve to hear, clearly men, saying that is unethical not for me'. They didn't say 'I adore my wife and she is a saint' they were saying 'I made a promise and I don't want to be less of a man' sort of thing. It was wonderful to read after all the hurt and let down of 'relationships' on MN!

Also, one (again a man) took that statistic to task, saying all the countries she quotes are unequal countries where women had to grit their teeth and live with the humiliation; whereas Britain (remember she was criticising Britain for our backward attitudes) the equality of women that has been worked for means they can choose not to live with the hurt.

Men could not get into relationships that they don't want to be faithful in.
Why is this directed at women having to deal with men cheating? Does it save the marriage if a woman cheats?

www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/9486351/The-recipe-for-happiness-An-enduring-marriage-and-an-affair-with-lots-of-sex.html

Apparently one of the big drivers of affairs is the thought that 'everyone is doing it'. If men are around other people who are 'getting away with it', they are more likely to try.

The reason I found it wonderful was that the replies were from so many MEN disagreeing.

Very eloquently, giving reasons rather than abuse.

How do people get that lovely little blue pointer?