I know it aint Friday but can I ask a question on sex position please

[HairyArmPit]

Not trolling so bare with me!

I've never been that adventurous in bed, preferring a quickie in missionary than anything else. I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I've been "on top" in my entire life and that was only because I was pressured into it.

Now, for the first time in my life I've found someone I actually LIKE having sex with. I want to go all out and have a good sex life and I feel like I want to be a bit more adventurous

My question is probably really ridiculous but here goes - if I initiate sex - with an aim to going on top - do I 'ask' him first before I go for the penetration or just do it? I'm assuming he'd make it obvious if he didn't want to right?

As you can see, I'm a total beginner when it comes to being the one 'in charge'.

Try not to laugh too much at me. Cheers.

I don't think it's a silly question at all.

I think I would probably just say something like "lie down" or if we're sitting up kissing or whatever, I would push his chest down slowly with my hand and then assume the position. Not in a dominant way, just in a normal way.

Can you tell him that you're not very confident and maybe have a discussion about what you'd like to do? If you're into each other, it shouldn't be too embarrassing, and it's normally nice and brings you closer if you can share your fears about sex. Then you could just ask him if he likes it with you on top.

Good luck!

If you want to go on top do it!
If you're worried he'll say no then start by just rubbing yourself on his (presumably erect) penis, if he's game he won't stop you and will probably push into the contact and initiate penetration, if that makes sense...

That was a bit vague sorry. I mean start with a bit of foreplay, so you're both ready, then lay him down and climb aboard ;)

If you delay he will probably ask you to, er, get on it!

I've never asked but it's quite difficult to get astride a naked man without some level of encouragement for penetration IME.

It's nice to hear that you've found a good un OP :)

Congratulations on finding a compatible mate! When I wish to initiate, I often start with a nice fondle, thigh rubbing, up to penis, then perhaps a bit of a blow job, once things are really hot, I climb aboard...never had a complaint yet...

I've never met a man who didn't thoroughly enjoy woman on top. They enjoy the accessibility, the visual and the lack of any effort. In fact I've never met a man who didn't get turned on by a woman who knew what she wanted sexually.

Just do it. I guarantee he won't complain !

Just do it.

I've never knowingly met a man who would complain.

Most men are lazy fuckers in every sense.

I can guarantee that if you sit astride him he will be in no doubt about what will happen next so don't worry about it. It'll just happen.

Go be adventurous, men seem to appreciate it i am of course innocent as the day i was born

And i have to agree, if you dont try it you dont know whether you would like it or not. I know i like it. I love being in control

Do enjoy it, make sure you are safe though

I dont want to be lewd but, how about a skirt knickerless underneath, dont let him know this straddle him on the settee or bed etc, when he obviously aroused, perhaps by then you might be doing oral etc, you could shuffle back up and straddle him , nice surprise for him, and if your shy then you have full coverage skirt wise etc.

If he doesn't want you to he will hug you and roll you over.

I usually switch positions a lot during foreplay and sometimes end up in different positions.

It just feels natural. So play around and lose yourself.

Tie him down and gag him first. Then he won't be able to object