His Giant Mistake !!

[Yogagirl17]

This is not my blog, it's something I came across a few months ago when I was in the midst of my own 'post XH's affair/separation hell'. It's a really in depth account of how this woman coped with finding out about her husband's affair and what happened after that. About how she confronted him, how she moved on, how she learned not to blame herself, how she's healing from the devastation affairs cause. I know there are lots (sadly far too many) of us on here who have been through the same and I just wanted to share it.

His Giant Mistake

I've just read the first page to this blog but it won't go any further when I click 'next' could have something to do with being on my phone, will take another look when I'm on the laptop later.

I'm just coming through finding out about my dp infidelities, we are still together only because he showed true remorse for what he had done. I'm still riding the wave of emotions though.

I've checked the link and the 'next' button should work. So Sorry to hear about your situation, it's just awful, isn't it? xx

Bumping because this blog is really fantastic!

Sorry you've been through this too it's been one of the most difficult things I've gone through.

Will hopefully be on the laptop later and will come back to this blog x

Sorry to hear about your troubles YogaGirl, I clicked on the link...how embarrassing having an e-mail broadcast in which you mention 'doing your happy dance'
I wont read the blog, it's bound to be badly written cliqued old trivia..most of them are

Have you been through something similar Mercury? Have to say I found your comment very harsh seen as you've only read the first page!

yeah I've been cheated on, shit happens...
every blog I've ever read has been so badly written it made me cringe
harsh but true

Amazing blog..I'm reading it now.

you clearly have a very low bar for literature :o

Sorry you've been through this too, have to say not read many blogs myself but the ones I have read have been extremely helpful (not all about this subject) perhaps this blog is different to the ones you've read?

mercury sorry you didn't like it - each to his own. I haven't read a lot of blogs & came across this one completely by accident but found it touched on a lot of what I was feeling. It's not meant to be literature.

How are you doing Looksgood? I can't imagine what it would be like to try and work through something like that.

Some days I think he just wasn't remorseful enough (I got gems like, "I'm sorry, I'll end the affair...but can't I still be friends with her cause I really need someone to talk to" and "I'm so sorry I did a terrible thing...but you made me so unhappy I've been miserable for years so it's clearly all your fault"). Other days I think the betrayal itself just broke the foundations of our marriage and I would never have trusted him again anyway, no matter how sorry he was.

Amazing blog, very well written. Thank you for sharing

I know blogs arent meant to be literature but it's usually apparent from the style that the blogger fancies him/herself as a bit of a writer

I guess you are focussing on the emotions expressed and how they resonate with what you experienced, so you'll get a sense of validation...I do appreciate thats a helpful thing:)

Gosh, Mercury, snobbish much?

mercury maybe the blog didn't resonate for you because you think of cheating as 'shit happens'. Whereas for me it was a totally devastating, earth shattering, life changing experience - something that took every single thing I thought I knew to be true and turned it upside down. Maybe you expect men to cheat on you, maybe you don't think you deserve fidelity or maybe you just think that's how men are. I didn't expect it and didn't deserve it

oops, sorry, posted too soon! Nevermind, you get the idea.

I can't get it to go to next either

The next button doesn't seem to work if you're on a phone. Click 'Home' instead then scroll to the bottom where it says Month by Month and start with November.

' Maybe you expect men to cheat on you, maybe you don't think you deserve fidelity or maybe you just think that's how men are'

nope, none of that, just shit happens, often way worse worse shit than infidelity.

yes I know I sound cruel & flippant, but everyone (unless a lifelong celibate) has to deal with some of the pain & crap that happens in relationship.

People are all wounded and flawed, they behave badly, do stupid, thoughtless, cruel things.

None of us has a life without pain and hurt, after a while you get over it, it becomes just so much water under the bridge

I got as far as "The words hit me in the face like a fried egg, falling to the floor where my dog inhaled it without tasting a thing" and realised that 50 Shades seems like a Classic in comparison to this navel gazing drivel..

I couldn't finish 50 shades, and I must admit I've given up with this blog. It was good at first, but then started getting tedious.

mercury - you're right, this stuff does happen. And far worse things happen than being cheated on. In fact far worse things happen to people than divorce and the end of an 18 year relationship with the person you loved and trusted most in the world. But to me it's none of it is just water under the bridge. To me it all feels pretty important.

And yeah, I get that this blog is not great literature - like I said, it just touched on a lot of things I've felt over the last 10 months. Just like 50 shades is complete, badly written trash, but I still enjoyed the first one (gave up halfway through the second mind you...). I'm glad a few of you liked the blog anyway.