OH just left me

[tillymint74]

Husband has walked out on me and my 10 month old. He says he is numb, but loves and fancies me. This came out two weeks ago just before a family holiday ( his family). He is now with our best friends. I don't think there is anyone else as he said so on our babies life.

My Dad is ill with cancer and my Mum , who looks after him, has to have an operation to help her. I can't stress them out and tell them he has left me.

I am so confused and hurt x

You can't hide something like this from your parents, lovely. You can still support them while they support you, you can lean on each other. OK, you might all stagger a bit, but they won't want you to struggle alone and find out later. That would be hurtful too.

I wouldn't believe him whatever he swears - seen it too often on these boards, but it doesn't matter anyway. Look after you, protect your interests and your child's. I'm so sorry.

Am very sorry to read this Tilly. Did he give you the I love you but I am not in love with you speech?.

He's "numb" or so he says, he has shown no regard at all for you at all has he and continues to treat you with contempt. He does not deserve you at all honestly.

As for this comment:-
"I don't think there is anyone else as he said so on our babies life"
Men lie and use their children too in their lies. I would not believe it for one second, do you believe what he has said. Many men would not leave one relationship without someone else to go to and what he has told you is I daresay not the whole truth of the matter.

Are there other family/friends you can unburden yourself to?. You need support and I am sorry to read also about your parents health problems.

Keep posting here; MN can also help you in your hour of need.

Thank you so much it all points to someone else, if it has happened yet or not. I have had a text tonight from him to say sorry and we can meet in in a few days to discuss things. I have not replied as I no longer want to hear the lies. How do I move on, I am still on maternity leave for another couple of weeks... Aghhhhh

It's too early to think of moving on, you have to accept working through the pain for now. There will be a new and shiny future, 'though.

I'm so sorry. I do think though that a hell of a lot of complete twunts swear on their baby's life.

WTF 'still fancies you' I would not fancy him anymore...and get a STD prompto!

Does his family know? What have they said?
Call the CSA prompto, het CTC, CB etc in your name and register as single parent...well you are for now!
Why has he to wait few days before discussing it?
Can you get a GF round for an evening to have a chat/company?