How to be aloof?

[Beaverfeaver]

I have a friend who is very good at being aloof and hard to pin down to anything.

They have contacted me after blowing me off today to see if tomorrow will be ok instead.

I know it's childish, but how can I be aloof back?

I only know how to make a plan and stick to it

Bin her. Life's too short.

Good point! :)

It's no point playing games. You'd be better focussing on friends who stick to plans and don't mess you about. I wouldn't necessarily bin her off, but wouldn't make special plans with her again, just include her in stuff with others that it doesn't really matter if she doesn't turn up to.

Just don't be available - tell her you have other plans and go and do something nice for yourself. If she cancels on you and you quite happily just shift around to suit her then she'll come to expect it. It's ok to do that if its for a good reason but you don't sound convinced that it was.

Uou wete available when you said you would. Tough tits. You're busy tomorrow.

I would always be busy when she calls. Let her contact you to arrange things. If she rings to try and re-arrange, tell her you are busy on the days she wants to re-arrange things for. Don't always answer her calls. Take a day or two to reply to texts. Basically make her work harder to be your friend.

That's if she's worth having as a friend. If you're not fussed one way or the other then just bin her as a friend.

to add to my above reply; I have a friend who is a little like that. She kept calling me and wanting me to chat for hours but if I ever phoned her she would say 'I'm not being rude but I'm in the middle of X at the moment, so I've got to go'. She would also regularly forget plans we had made. I took a step back and started treating her as she treated me, as I didn't want to end the friendship as she does have one or two redeeming qualities. So, each time she phoned me I would chat for 2 minutes and then say 'I'm not being rude but I have to do X, Y or Z now'. I also started letting her make plans with me and chase me to meet up. She seems to have subconsciously got the message as I feel she is more respectful to me now.