Mothers and daughters,

[tinyFox]

Try not to rant on too much, lol. Basically my parents split up when i was 5 and by the time i was 6 my mother found a new man.,after a short while it was obviouse that my sister and step father didn't get on and something happened(which iwon't mention) and she left and lived with my dad. My mum then never bothered with my sister and acted like i was her only child. Which being 6 and having all the attention, it was good in my eyes.
Anyway now we are all grown up with kids of our own, my mum seems to bother with me than she does my sister and i feel guilty even though it;s not my fault. What would you do?? She's not the kind of mother you could tell iyswim.

How does your sister feel about it?

Well she says it doesn't bother her, but i think deep down it does. So every time i see my mum i feel guilty. I was living away from the area and my sister and mum saw quite alot of each other but recently moved back in area and she's stopped seeing her so much and sees more of me. I have just had a marital split and my sister says she's probably worried about me. But i am not sure what to do, or should i do anything?? My mother is quite cold and always has been.

Difficult one. It's not your fault that your mother is the way she is. Don't try to 'fix' things. My mum was similar, and my sister had to have counselling to get over being the favourite! No advice really, just sympathy.

thanks dior, i thought i shouldn't do anything, i just feel it's unfair really.

Yes, it really is. But, you are not at fault. x