am i being silly?

[littlelight]

i think i am being a bit silly about this but wanted to know what other people think

i have a lower sex drive than my dp we have sex a lot but i know he wants more this morning i was having a sleep in and he woke up earlier than me went downstairs and sorted breakfast etc out but then came upstairs and woke me up basically for sex which we did have

every single morning i have to put up with him grinding against me or trying very hard to touch me down there i feel really bad for always rejecting him but its not often i am in the mood at 8am

i love him and do enjo having sex with him but i feel pressured a lot and it turns me right off i feel constantly guilty because i don't always want sex

he is very good and would never do anything that i dont want him to and when i ask him to stop pestering me in the morning he does so i think i am being over dramatic

i just wish he would let me initiate sex sometimes and that i wasn't asked for it every morning and every night

tell him

it would drive me bananas tbh

i have and he says sorry a lot and does feel bad i have not the heart to tell him quite how shit telling him no time and time again is

he is a very lovin caring man and i know he just wants to have lots of sex because he loves me so much i know that sounds a bit cheesy but it is true

honestly sometimes after sex i feel almost violated because in the end i just gave in and it puts me off

i love having sex with him when we both want it its just when he pesters me that i mind

You are not silly - sounds completely OTT to me - I would feel used TBH.

Men can be like this.. we see showing someone we love them as cuddles, kisses, support and doing nice things for each other and sex is the icing on the cake. Some men see this as their way of showing love.. i would shut his winky in a draw if he pestered me like this!

i dont want to upset him at all because like i say i know he does love me a lot and he is very very caring and good to me

i dont mind him initiating sex its just the relentlessness of the mornings really

my dh wouldn't even attempt it in the morning. i'm savage then.. does he sulk when you say no?

no he often relieves himself tho not sure how i feel about that either

I know dh wants it more often than I do ll but he would never pester me every morning like this. It would drive me nuts (and just how unsexy is grinding against you?)
Tbh if you don't talk to him the situation might spoil what enjoyment you have in the long run.
Say you love him, you know how much he loves you and you do enjoy sex with him but you really don't feel like it most mornings and would really enjoy being able to be the one who initiates sometimes. If he can't deal with that and back off a bit he's unreasonable.

littlelight

thank you for your advice i will try and speak to him tonight i hope i dont upset him because he is quite sensitive

i know some of it is about trying his luck and sometimes it does work and i dont mind so i am not sure how to get across the message that its nice when he tries in the morning sometimes but not every single morning and yes the grinding is cringe worthy

hmmmm, i have exactly the same problem, i just put up with it, really, it's annoying, though. have to admit i sometimes feel like i'm 'putting out' for an easy life. have tried to tell him i'd be a lot more willing and wild if i ddin't feel pestered into it but doesn't seem to make any difference. oh well, could be worse things going on i suppose

good luck with your chat, let me know if u have any luck

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