unreasonable expectation/hope?

[theendishere]

stbxh and i still live in the same house while divorce/finances being sorted. Usually during the day he is at work so just about bearable in the house. He's taken time off work and i was going to stay with a friend but it's now not poss to stay there.
I have been seeing someone else for a couple of months and he is away during the time ex is off work. I was kind of hoping he might suggest i could stay in his house while he was away, but he hasn't, AIBU to be a bit disappointed?

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I think so I'm afraid. Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself whether you would let someone you have known for just 2 months stay in your home to be away from his wife.

Just keep busy each day. Get out of the house as much as you can even if it's going for walks. I had to live with an ex for 5 months while a house was sold and it was truly s*.

Thanks LB :) Guess it would be asking a bit too much and yes I'm not sure how i'd feel abut it either

I probably wouldnt let you, because i know what im like, and i'd be snooping through everything

Im in a similar situation at the moment, but luckily me and ExDP get on quite well.

After only a couple of months you don't know each other very well, so he is not being unreasonable. However, as you are living in a house with an arsehole, you were not being unreasonable in wishing for a bit of a respite. Is there anywhere else you could go, eg friend or family member, just for a day or two?

Thanks for your comments. Yes SGB - have managed to arrange to stay with a friend :)

theend - it isn't just his house though, is it? His children live there too and although I assume they would be away also, it isn't like staying in a single blokes flat for a couple of nights.

Based on this and your other thread, I think you need to calm down a bit. You have only been seeing him a couple of months, you haven't even properly disengaged from your ex-H, and your new man has children. It is very, very early days and you aren't behaving as if you realise that.

That's what I've said before Ali, not sure i wasn't completely.ignored.though.

OP, slow.down, you don't know him, he'd be insane.to.let.you into his house.to live. You HAVE to see that.

If you don't calm the hell down, he'll have no option other than to dump you.

he has chidren you havnt known him long at all. he cant just let you stay in his house. he has to much to risk.

i really dont mean to sound nasty but i do think you need to calm down a bit.

Ah come on - the OP's made two threads about being "a bit disappointed" by something and "not making a fuss but a bit fed up". Both times she's been told she's BU, both times she's accepted the response with grace and aplomb. Maybe she needs to rethink some of her expectations of this new relationship, but she's not being a total loon!