Benefit Buddies-is this normal?

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Never done this kinda thing before so don´t really know whats normal in this situation

Basically, I have been friends with this guy for many years now. He has always liked me, and I do have a bit of a soft spot for him too. However nothings ever happened betweeen us untill recently as I had been in long term relationship.

About three months ago, we slept together for the first time, and its happened again a few times since. He makes sure I have good time etc and we have agreed that we will be benefit buddies, as I´m still not ready for a full on relationship and he is cool with this.

Is is normal though, for people in these situations to text at least every other day? To cuddle up and watch a film together? When he kisses me, he´ll cradle my face in his hands and will stroke my cheeks--and he kisses me non stop while we´re, uh, doing the deed. Is that normal, always thought with this kinda thing it would be more...primal/sexual?

Just wondering really if I am reading too much into this or thinking about it too much.

Do you chum each other to the dole queue? That's sweet

I love the way you've welded Fuck Buddies & Friends With Benefits together! Never heard of Benefit Buddies before - I like it!

Sounds like he's more into you than you are him, OP.

It's normal in my experience, and the term is FWB - friends with benefits, not benefit buddies or it does sound like you're in the dole queue together playing hopscotch or something :o

I thought this was going to be about scamming benefits too

In all serious, did you set out any 'rules' ?

I.e : Sex only? Do you spend nights together? Cuddling outside of the bedroom/sex ?

Ime fuck buddies , is just that, you do the sexuals and then you leave. If your friends anyway then that carries on as normal, if you can.

If its making you uncomfortable just say.