Am i being silly?

[bubbles2904]

Hi , i had a baby 6 months ago and ever since i have been feeling really jealous and insecure about my dp, i seem to have it in my head that he's going to cheat on me. Anyway, he works every day and usually does 12 hours so we don't see him a lot. theres a woman who works next door to his work, and goes into oyur local pub. He said he doesn't speak to her, but he told me last night that she invited him to go out with her and a lot of others, when i pulled him up on it, he said that i was also invited. Anyway, we went out last night for the 1st time in months alone, and she was there, she was really over friendly, not how you would be with someone you don't speak to, she asked him "i bet work has been shit without me there hasn't it?" i was so wound up and really flipped. I have never been so angry with anyone in my life before, i stormed out and started punching a wall wishing it was her head!!! We've had it out and he's promised that there is nothing in it

oh dear.. mind your knuckles! do you think he may have played it down as he knows you're feeling a little insecure at the mo? do you trust him?

Confront her, don't let another woman muscle in.

i do trust him usually,it's just since i was pg. i know he hasn't done anything as he swore on our 2dds lives, and he nevers does that unless he's serious, i know that sounds really silly. my knuckles are really bad but i'm not a violent person, never hit anyone in my life but i really wanted to do her some damage and i don't think i would have stopped.

She's got no chance of ever getting with him, he's assured me that he's never been so happy.

that's what she probably wants the smug bitch, then it makes you look bad. If you trust your dp, then try and ignore her.. he's yours, and she can't have him, and he doesn't want her, so don't let her bother you. I have decided that i'm getting too old to let people who mean f*ck all to me upset me!!!!!! no more violence please

thanks a lot, i think thats what i needed to hear, i actually told him that i don't want him going in THAT pub anymore or else it's over. i can't believe i was that person, i'm usually so easy going and carefree, i don't want to drive my dp away as i love him more than life itself, but i don't know how to stop it. The week before i thought a different woman was flirting with him so, maybe a lot of it is in my head but i really don't know what to do. Any advice???

I felt a little like this too, quite simply because I retained the "baby weight" for a little while and looking after a newborn I kinda forgot to look after myself so I was thinking all sorts, its so easy to see things that aren't really there too, dh works with a young attractive girl infact he sort of hired her but instinctively I know he wouldn't cheat on, just think next time you see her I've got a lovely dp and baby and what have you got

agreed. some days i feel like a dog. i even started a thread on here titled "i'm a minger"
You do get bogged down with young kids, housework etc, and they're out in the "real world" which seems a million miles from where you are. I think i'm still hormonal and dd is now 1. I bet when the sun comes out, and spring arrives we'll all feel better.. i'm on the lardy ladies thread too now so i'll keep you going love x

I used to get paranoid and phone my H in a terrible state. I was convinced he was lusting after the office girl. I have dropped some weight now and i go to the gym. Dress smartly and have got my confidence back. He actually said i looked sexy this morning. Have a brazzillian wax do sexy things. Make him want you.

i need to do more things like this. i forgot to look after myself.. don't get me wrong, i'm clean and tidy, but always wear jeans etc and can't be arsed with make up some of the time! I would love to go on trinny and susannah. I also have a nanny mcphee style mole on my face which is being removed at the end of march so think that'll give me a lift!

We forget we need to make the most of ourselves. And it helps our confidence. Have a complete change of hairdo, have a wax, thats a def turnon for the sexlife.

Promise

i had similar at a xmas party.
tart old enough to be his mum had him kneeling on the floor in front of him between her legs, skirt on i might add, whispering into his ear some crap.
i went mad and had to have his mate holding me back. i was gonna knock her out right there.
dh was totally paraletic and came over to me with his face covered in gold glitter from her top- arggghhh!
this was before we were married or kids though.
know how you feel and its ok if you wanted to stab 'er!! can sympathise there!

oh and her explanation?
'im like a mother to him, whats your problem'

cant post my response, but it started 'what kind of 'mother'....'

i can too. my dh dj's (not smashy and nicey style, not talking etc) so there's always some little trollop hanging around him. half the time he doesn't realise the plum!

I make a point now if anyone asks what i want for xmas/bdays to get vouchers and I also make sure I get plenty of points on my boots card this way I can splurge on the expensive beauty counters or get some nice clothes without feeling guilty that I'm wasting money which should be going on dd luurrrvve clarins counter and prescriptives, its amazing how a little make up and splash of perfume can make you feel better
oooh and ps M&S do very sexy and affordable underware range now

oooh! i get trollops looking all the time, even smiling and im right there, with son.
he doesnt even notice!

Hello bubbles

I'm sure dp is totally innocent - hormones make us do funny things to protect our own. Take care xxx