When does a 'date' scenario turn into boyfriend/girlfriend scenario?

[NikkiNicks]

Been seeing someone a month. Been on lots of dates, too many to count now really - from the classic cinema date to just watching movies at his house.
Talked lots, laughed lots, slept together a few times and got drunk together a few times and we're going away together this weekend.

We've not met each other's kids but he's saying things now like he's going to tell his kids that he is seeing someone. He has mentioned the word "girlfriend" a couple of times and there have been other references to us being "an item" - however we've never had a discussion that cements that theory.

So I'm wondering - when does a couple of people "dating" turn into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation? do I assume we're there already?

I shouldnt worry about the label, the whole package sounds great. Have fun.

Thank you!

I think it's safe to say we're exclusive without directly mentioning it, right?

Er, no. I think it's a good idea to discuss being exclusive rather than assuming it. This avoids disappointment and hurt feelings later.

"we've never had a discussion that cements that theory" works both ways.

You're assuming you're exclusive based on that, suppose he's assuming that you're not exclusive because you've never had "the discussion".

If exclusivity is what you want then have the talk.

I've been on a different boards dating thread and there was lots of talk about having The Conversation to establish where one was about the gf/bf thing. I wasn't in a position to worry about it at the time but have since got a bf and he called me his girlfriend one time (after a month and spending loads and loads of time together) so it just seemed obvious that he was now my boyfriend...

I worried slightly about it being a bit 'playground' to have this Conversation and was glad it happened naturally. I wasn't waiting for him to say something as he was the one in charge, as it were, I just wasn't thinking about anything like that at all as I was enjoying myself too much

Seems like it's happened naturally for you two too! Congrats!

I'd say if you're using words like item and girlfriend to each other then it's exclusive. However I'm prob still stuck in a past world where one was always exclusive even if who with changed fairly frequently!