Ex partner's appalling behaviour after failed clomid cycle. What to do?

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I am actually shaking while typing this, going between feelings of fury and hurt.

I started getting a weird period a week too early on Sunday, I thought it might have been implantation bleeding, but it turns out it was the stress of my ex breaking up with me on Saturday night (for something very trivial really). The blood work showed that I was in fact pregnant, but lost the baby very early, probably because of the stress.

I have tried repeatedly to communicate with ex but he is refusing to discuss it. He will not answer the phone and only answers texts with curt answers.

Then all last night, knowing I had just had the MC, he texted me saying he wanted to have sex and "did I want him to fuck me again". He then said he would call this morning in ten minutes and didn't do it. When I called him withholding the number he answered and made an excuse about the reception being bad and that he would call in a few minutes and was late for work.

I then sent a text half an hour later saying that he should man up and just face this issue. He had the gall to be offended about the phrase man up. I am simply amazed that he would not even care enough to call someone in this situation and try to offer comfort, let alone someone he had been that close to and planned a future with.

I just sent a final message saying that I'm being too soft about this and am tired of being mucked around. I also said that I found it shocking that he could think so little of me that all he can do is text about sex in this situation, and that the middle of the night is not exactly the time to communicate.

How do I get over this?

Sorry about your loss, but I'm really struggling to understand the rest of it, you are trying to get pregnant by taking clomid and having sex with your ex?

No, sorry. I'm in such a state I must not be typing coherently.

We were together when I was taking the clomid. He became an ex only last Saturday.

How long have you been together? How old is he?
He sounds like a total cock, treating you like this at a delicate time.

I know it's not easy but ignore, ignore, ignore. Your constant calls/texts are giving him the impression that he can stroll back in whenever he feels like it.
Don't engage with him.
Sorry this has happened.

He seems to be saying very clearly that he doesn't like you anymore. I'd listen and try to disengage. I know it's not easy at all.

Talk to your friends and mum.

I understand now, he is obviously an ex for a reason, be sounds like an arse.
Honestly though don't contact him again he will only upset you further.

don't contact him
block his number
stress is very unlikely to cause a .mc in truth so don't necessarily put the blame on him

Sorry you are having to deal with a stressful situation.

But love you can't say that the mc was because he ended your relationship. The stress may have been a reason but there are also hundreds of other reasons why this happens.

You say he ended it over a trivial matter? How strong was your relationship before this?

To be honest I don't really think the mc can be just because of the stress. My mother said the stress probably caused it ("like women whose husbands disappear or die in the war" ?!") and the doctors told me that stress has a negative effect on the necessary hormones, but I don't want to blame him for that, I do blame him for being so unfeeling though.

The relationship seemed strong before this, he appeared to want this as much as I do.

All I wanted to do was communicate in person, instead he just wants to play phone games like a 16 year old. Not impressive for a man who is more than twice that age.

Could he be hurt as well? Depends what the fall out was over? Trivial is such a subjective thing.

It was about me not being amused about him keeping me waiting all day and mucking me about with plans.

Plans for a shag?

Are you living together? Has he left, i.e taken his belongings and moved elsewhere?

No, not for a shag, tzella. I like to think that the relationship was a bit more than that

Has he not been home since Saturday?

If not, have you asked him to meet you in, say, a neutral venue so that you can discuss what has happened and whether this means that your relationship is at an end.

do you live together?

As gutting as this must be for you, he had shown his true colours now hasn't he? He sounds vile. Almost deliberately cruel if I'm being honest.

So sorry about your miscarriage. I would completely back off from your ex and leave him to his childish ways.

You can do better.

Yes as Mobly has just said, I also feel this man is being deliberately cruel and nasty. He's one of lifes selfish arses sweetheart.

Ask friends/relatives for support and delete.