is this just DF having a dig or what.

[MrsBucketxx]

DF has never really got on with, dh so much so three days before my wedding he refused to go over something really stupid. (he did change his mind thanks to DM)even as i was about to walk up the isle he said "you can go the other way you know" and still tried to cause aurguments on the day over stupid things.

fast forward to now and dh will be working overseas for around two years. i know this is not the best and he won't see the children etc. its really upsetting for all of us but the work situation here means we don't have much choice.

DF was in the car alone with me yesterday and came out with are all your properties in joint names? i said yes and he said oh that could be problem when you split up (due to so much time apart) and continued to question my finances etc. i was completely thrown tbh. i love dh dearly and have no plans at all to split.

do you think DF is having a dig again? would you have just told him to shut up?

Why do you think DF doesn't like DH?

i know he doesn't he has never really said it, but he doesn't i think DF would be happy if we split.

they are very different completely aposing views on most things. he thinks dh is selfish etc when i know he is not.

Gosh, I feel for you.

Either tell ur father that if he can't say anything nice to keep quiet or tell him to mind his own business!

U might want to ask him why he doesn't like DH totry to understand him.

I think you need to challenge this. Ask him why he thinks the marriage is doomed. Other than just not liking him - is there something he knows that you don't? If not, say you don't want to hear any of that nonsense again.

What does he think he is selfish about?

he thinks he us selfish because of in our last home we chose to use the log burner cause it was cheaper. putting any extra cash we have to update our house like windows and paying off the mortgage, which means we dont have brand new clothes all the time days out etc.

i don't think that DF knows something i don't either, we did try and live with him away and it didn't work so he is going back on his own, DF knows its not a trail sepearation too he just said "two years is a long time you know to be apart"

its just hurtfull. i don't see what he us getting out of it upsetting me.

is DF holding a torch for you?

three. wtf!?

My dad (DF) three thats sick.

i hope you don't understand the acronyms.

Hang on, df is father here isn't it?

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It sounds as though your df doesn't like your dh, there may be reasons as to why this is, that you do not know about.
You should tell your df that if he has nothing nice to say, not to bother saying it unless of course there is a reason he doesn't like him?

Your dh has no choice about working away, your df should realise the man is trying to provide for his family.

i will see him on sunday and have a word with DM there too. he never is that nasty when she is there.

its like he couldn't wait for us to split from the start.

Maybe your friend has second intentions with you?! Are you sure that he doesn't have a crush?

Oh DF is father, sorry! I thought it was friend, ignore my last post.

if it was a mate i would think the same.

i think its the fact dh is like his father that abused him as a child. dh is not like him he is a good father and partner.

Yup, i also thought you were talking about a friend
In that case we can rule out its cos he fancies you

Does he think you could do better?

Do you mean DF?

Oh, oops! I thought DF was dear friend! Sorry!

I will re-read your posts in a new light and see if I can add anything sensible!

i do think thats the case puds.

i was with my ex for nine years and they really got on but dh and df don't get on at all. they are really different.