Abusive Ex Going Quiet

[mumineedawee]

I know I should just relax and enjoy the peaceful times...

But, my emotionally abusive ex has not texted or emailed for a week. He has been in contact with the older children via text.

I feel nervous as he has been texting about five times daily for so long. Now I am afraid of what he is up to?

He has done some enormously upsetting things in the recent past and maybe he realises this and has gone to ground, or something.

I hate that everything he does unsettles me so much.

He probably has a new woman in his life to suck in and then make miserable. I'm sure he will be back when he is bored. He's obviously getting some attention elsewhere.

I would love if he buggered off with someone else!

I agree with the attention coming from somewhere else being the most likely reason for him to be otherwise occupied.

I have taken the advice of others and just not responded to the many, many emails and texts. Its hard not to, when they are belittling, accusing me of neglect, etc., but hopefully he will stop harassing me for good.
I still feel nervous about checking my phone or email every day.

You don't have to put up with that. He does not have any right to harass you and you can report it to the police if you ask him to stop, and he then continues.

I have a text blocker app on my phone just for exH, and a separate email account that is used solely for communicating with him. I accidentally used the wrong email once and he found out my new email address, but I have blocked him on that one and told him that unless he uses the 'right' one it won't reach me. I have told him not to call me unless there is an emergency when the DC are with him. He wasn't anything like as regular or abusive as your ex, but the contact IS unwanted and this is how I manage it.

You used the word 'harassing'...that's exactly what it is, and it is against the law, and you can get help to stop it.

some other poor woman has come onto his radar... ?

He'll try all sorts. Bombarding you, going quiet, being nice, being horrid, sending you accusations which are outright lies so you're itching to defend yourself... it's a process. Stay detached.

My love, take back your life!

Get a new sim card, and go get yourself a new gmail account.

Nobody has the right to hold your life to ransom!

We're here for you, never think otherwise.

I totally understand why you might be a bit on edge and a bit suspicious because he has gone all quite. Chances are he has distracted himself away with bugging you, maybe new woman? Or Work?

Anyway i agree, I would try to relax and enjoy!
xx

God I know what you mean on this one........my ex has been 'nice' recently and laid off from the barrage of text abuse. I find it most unsettling. At least I know where I stand when I'm a slag, slut, cunt

It's because you haven't reacted to his abusive messages that he's got bored and wandered off to do something else.

Keep ignoring, and get on with your life.

Sadly, I agree that he has probably found another victim :(

Know exactly how you're feeling. I have detached so much he stays quiet a lot of the time, but it is unsettling yes. You're constantly waiting for the next outburst, small hissy fit at the weekend that had my in tears. It got so bad for me when we were splitting I had to change my message alert tone, as whenever it went off, him or not, I wanted to throw my phone at the wall and I could almost feel my blood boiling.
I know it's hard but enjoy the peace, and hopefully long may it last.

He's hoping you will 'worry' and contact HIM, thereby showing your vulnerablilty.

It's a different tack he's trying, don't fall for it.

Maintain radio silence and change your email/phone details