Not a huge problem.

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Something has been bothering me it is not a huge problem. Overheard converstation.

Man 1 : 'i had a chance with her'
man 2 : ' why didn't you go for it'
man 1 : 'she scares me'

what does that mean? Am i scary from a mans point of view?

Were they talking about you? Was Man 1 someone you were interested in?

Yes,they knew i could hear and yes many years ago.

Yes,they knew i could hear and yes many years ago.

Could mean - she scares me, I think I would have fallen for her

Or she scares me - she's a bit odd/fiery/ballsy/whatever

Or anything inbetween.

she scares me because she is more intelligent than me ?

Do you think it means he hates me? He stares at me one day and turns his back on my the next! Its very odd. I must admit also i have never seen him with a girlfriend.

I used to get told that I was sexually intimidating

What I actually was was young, beautiful and happy. With big tits.

The thing is, I had little control as to how some- and it is only some- men saw me. In other words, it's their shit, stop worrying.

You're not responsible for him being scared unless you snuck up behind him in the dark wearing a clown mask.

this comment was many years ago and he still stares at you ?

he's a psycho

or he has a gammy eye

Just saw that he knew you were listening... That's incredibly manipulative of him.

A deliberate attempt to make you feel insecure and gain power would be my bet.

No he didn't tell me why years ago, have only heard the comment he turned me down because i scare him. Suppose i shouldn't let it bother me but it upset me a bit,i am not scary at all,i dont think.

Really,i wouldn't of described him as that, maybe you right.

She scares me could mean:

Shes confident and intelligent and beautiful and way out of my league.

Shes a complete nut job. Needy. Bunny boiler.

I think she could be the one and THAT is what scares me.

If he thought u were number two I think he would have said "shes scary" or "shes a nutter"

But as pps have said, if he knew you were listening it could be an intentional mind fuck.

Could be. Thank you for your replies. I mean why say i scare him now and why stare at me now i mean he holds it and looks right into my eyes...think he is just taking the pee.

Stare him out. Be scary. Mind fuck him right back. :o

My guess would be that its partly true, that you do scare him, in the same way that a lot of things probably scare this man. The fact he said it to Man 2 indicates to me he thought you worthy of boasting about in terms of you possibly liking him, but excusing himself for not making a move, in quite a wimpy way.

In general I would think he was a wimpy sort of man, who likes attention but cannot perhaps deal with normal human relationships that well. Espcially if he has never been known to have a girlfriend. I wouldn't spend too much time thinking about him.

I have tried staring him out he didn't budge. He is not confident at all and he never appears to have female attention. I have known him for many years..im giving him to much head space aren't?

Ask him if he fancies a shag over the photocopier

that will really freak him out

Do you fancy him?

Great idea AnyFucker only problem is my dp wouldn't be amused but i would love to he would run a mile!

it's still an option, to give him the fright of his life !

the only problem might be if he took you up on it

I think i may like him maybe that is why im a bit hurt by what he said but even if i was single he obviously would never like me.

Stop worrying about whether he likes you! You've given us enough reasons to think he's not someone you should exactly be chasing after. Take no notice of him or, if you can't, then confront him and ask him what he's up to.

I'm pretty confident he wouldn't take me up on it... i mean what is wrong with the man! I have never been turned down!