In my view eveything has changed in the last decade. Ten years ago dating web sites were few and far between and maybe genuine, with real heartening outcomes. Today it seems that everyone is using one. My friend was on one recently and was showing me her options, it was a Sunday night and there were 71,000 men on line on one website alone! The ones in Batman outfits were probably married of course!!
All my friends who were/are on dating web sites, were/are desperate for a relationship and were/are meeting guys who were previously married, or newly separated, have a couple of children to support, and probably treated their wife like a housekkeeper, who knows one of them was maybe your ex!!
Obviously it is unlikely you will meet someone totally free of heartache, now they and you are in their 40's. Things are not the same as life as little as a decade ago, life has moved on, nothing is the same as life was the way you may have met with your first boyfriend, the baggage has accumulated, they have had their fingers burnt, have a few children and a mortgage or two to pay. Of course they want sex, and get it quite easily, they simply press delete then move on to the next. So many of my friends find the time spent on dating web sites frustrating to say the least.
Recently another friend joined one of the free web sites, and in 24 hours had 200 hits, and a few Batman outfits too!!
Stuff happens to couples, being desperate is not a good look. Try enjoying your freedom, coupledom comes at a price. Remember how you yearned to be free, well you are now just enjoy it. Come off the dating web sites. Get out, go dancing, join a gym, go for a swim, eat out, have fun. When my friend finally gave up the dating sites, guess what she met someone the old fashioned way, having lunch in the pub with friends, and glancing at each other across a crowded room. He was already someone's ex husband, but he is now her boyfriend and they are having fun.