I fancy someone who isn't DP

[broodyandpoor]

I've been with dp for 3 years, everything's going well (as relationships do it ebbs and flows)
For the first time in ages I really fancy a male friend of ours, I would never do anything I just needed to write it down as it's quite startling to feel this way, maybe I just need a slap but it's quite tormenting feeling this way about someone.
my instinct is to just cut off contact (subtly) so I'm not lead into temptation.
gah- desire's so all-pervasive and intoxicating

Your not the only one!
I love my DH. Have been together about 12 years.
However some of my closest and oldest friends are male.
I think sometimes depending on my hormonal balance I start fancying other people.
Some of them are so loveley/funny/fit that it's hard not to!
DH has obviously adopted these friends as his own, as have I of his female friends.
We all flirt horrendously when we are all together.
But it's just a bit of harmless fun.
I have some very sexy female friends, so wouldn't be surprised of my DH fancied some of them sometimes too.
But I'm the one he is with and that's what's important.

Nothing wrong in noticing handsome attractive men I do it all the time

Thanks, I have just come out of a rough patch with dp and trying to re-gain trust, energy and a connection with him, I went to a friends house just for a cuppa this afternoon and maybe it was my hormones but I just found this person so attractive and it really disrupted my mind kept thinking about it afterwards etc
Its quite confusing, DP went a bit quiet when I told him.
not simple.

If you are just window shopping/ daydreaming then don't worry about it. It's a bit mean to tell your DP though, it's never going to come across as anything but a bit cruel IMHO.

Avoiding developing intimacy with these crushes is a good idea too. But don't taunt DP with how you feel, would you like it? There is such a thing as being too honest.

I didnt tell him how I felt I just mentioned Id been round for a cuppa.

Perhaps he saw the glint in your eye. I would probably try and keep everything very bright and breezy with your crush, everyone has them but it's important not to make too much of them, I tend to have them when I am having difficulties/need a bit of escapism and it's usually far more about me than the actual object of my affections.

Yes that's so true mumsy thank you I don't think I'll go round again poor DP he's working so hard at the moment.