I think we are splitting up

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I'm almost 7 months pregnant with our first, and I think we've just split up. He says he is going to move out tomorrow. We've only just moved in to a new house, literally a week ago. I don't know what to do, it is so sad. I feel so sorry for our son, I really wanted to give him a real family. I don't know why I am posting this, just feel like I need to talk to someone but there is no one in real life I want to bother with this crap. Our family and friends are so happy for us and the baby and the new house, I can't face telling them.

What happened? Are you sure it's not just an argument gone too far? Take care of yourself x

What he says he's going to do and what he does may be 2 entirely different things.

Have you had a row, or has he been particularly stressed over moving and the forthcoming arrival of your pfb?

What's prompted this? Slow down and things through.

Yeah we had a row. He says he can't cope with living with me anymore, I whine and moan too much and I'm winding him up and he can't take it anymore. He seems really fed up.

How long have you lived together? Is there other stuff going on (work, etc) that might be adding to his stress levels?

I hope you can sit down and talk things through.

We've only lived together since the beginning of the year. The problem is we can't talk about things, whenever I try it's just "leave me alone". He'd be the first to admit he is rubbish at talking about feelings. He just gets so angry, he is impossible to reason with. Anyway, he just seems determined he's had enough of me. If he does move out, I'm sure I'll find a way of coping, because I have to, but it is just so, so sad.

He sounds very passive aggressive to be honest. The space may well do you good. There are lots of single mums (myself included) on here that will be happy to support you if that's what it comes to.

Not sure of your situation, but when I fell pg with dc1( aged 17-dp 21) we had only been together 6months. Our relationship moved v quickly and dp got v v stressed and we argued a lot. I was a hormal nightmare tbh He 'left' almost monthly, and I had accepted the fact i would be a single mum. As soon as ds was born tho, everything changed - we both began to realise how much we wanted to be a family, and could tolerate each other much more 3 years on, we are engaged and have dc2 and have bought 2 houses together - babies make everything better!

I sincerely hope this is just a blip, but if you need support come and join this thread where a couple of ladies are going through the same thing.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lone_parents/1516470-Facing-pregnancy-alone

Good luck

I'm happy it's worked out for you but the fact is, sillyily, is that babies can make unsatisfactory relationships infinitely worse.

Don't rely on good fairies turning up at the birth, OP. Sit your dp down and tell him that if he's going, he goes now or he stops threatening to leave for at least the next year - unless of course he's willing to put the house in your sole name and carry on paying the mortage until your dc is 18.