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Why do people bully?

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toptramp · 12/08/2012 11:12

Hope relationships is the right place.

I was bullied at school and didn't fight back unfortunately. I was also abused by an ex. Today I am much more able to stick up for myself but I can't help feeling that I was bullied as I was a weak individual who failed to stand up for herself.My weaknesses being a bit a plain and shit at sport.

I don't think that the bullies are stronger than me but I do feel bad about humans due to my experiences and I now feel that humans just love to pick on weaknesses of others.

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MagicHouse · 12/08/2012 13:56

She's jealous of you.

Hold your head high and be very proud about visiting her with your lovely family. Try to ignore her trying to get a rise out of you. Just smile as sweetly as you can manage an come out with innocuous replies like "oh, do you think so" and change the subject. If she pushes you say "I don't agree, but let's not argue about that - we came over here to see you....."

Pracise a mantra "poor woman, she is jealous of me and very unhappy"!!

maples · 12/08/2012 14:25

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toptramp · 12/08/2012 19:29

I remember a girl at school bullying me. We were both 13. She was shagging a member of the upper 6th who happened to be a very popular and talented student. Looking back he was also a bit of a paedo for shagging an underage girl.
However, because they were both poular kids noone raised an eyebrow. I remember she was passing her packet of pills around the class and started talking about how great the sex was with him. She started laying into me by saying she bet I never had a boyfriend etc. I told her I had but looking back would it matter at 13 that I didn't. Looking back I can see that both her and the 6th former who had taken advantage of her were pathetic and fucked up individuals and I am quite glad that I saved my virginity until I was 16 thank you very much. It still hurt that she was so vicious about my romantic prospects in front of the whole class and quite shocking that the rather inept teacher didn't pull her up on her behaviour and/or report the 6th form boy to manegement. Hmm

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TapirBackRider · 12/08/2012 19:57

People bully for many different reasons.

Some because they don't like/fear those who are different to themselves, some because they like to feel better than those they are able to bully,
some because something deep inside them is broken, and bullying makes it feel better, and some because they really enjoy it and the pain and misery it causes their victims.

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