Utterly confused!

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Been married for 4 years & with my husband for 12. We used to be happy & have a life but we got married & bought our house 4 yrs & then had ds. Since then been so skint & house now in negative equity so we're stuck.
More and more I want to separate from my H as I don't feel I truely love him. He gets on at my 13 yr old dd all the time which I hate.
I feel so trapped though as have no money and know if I leave dh to the house he won't be able to manage. I also like our house & we have 3 cats that I really love.
I don't know whether to try & just make it work & think this will get better. Or leave & hope that things work out. Feeling miserable and confused. H also desperate for us to have another baby and I just don't know what to do. Everything feels make or break but really scared of uprooting my children for the unknown.

dont have any more babies, at least not for a very long time

What you mean by he 'gets on at your 13yo dd all the time'? What does he do/say to her? Do you pull him on it? If so, what does he say to you? What reason does he give for getting on at her?

He moans at her for everything, for opening food in the fridge, leaving dishes in her room, for talking back. She really is a good girl, I'm a mental health nurse looking after kids & teens & I'll say to him he's too hard on her & he needs to give her a break as she really is good. They both have season ticket for football & he says I don't see them at football when they get on & have a laugh. I think well why do you always get on at her at home. I've spoke to my dd & she's said she hates that he always gets on at her & I've tried to say that's just dads & what their like but I never see him saying anything positive. I left him before for this but he managed to get me to move back and said he was going to try harder. I feel really trapped as tied into a mortgage & have no money, I know I'm not setting my dd a good example as she knows I'm not really happy