Where the hell is my husband?

[Chinateacup]

Don't know whether to be worried or furious and currently flitting between the two. He went out for drinks with some friends - transpired they went home before midnight and he stayed out with " some other people he knows".
LO woke me at 3am and he wasn't home. Tried to call numerous times but no answer, nor to my text ( which is why I texted his friend to see if they were together). Still not heard anything. He doesn't go out much (!) - what should I do?

Conserve your energy. Go back to sleep and wake refreshed and ready to give him both barrels when he fetches up.

He just called. Said he woke up in his car. Says he left at the same time as his friends...So glad he's safe. Don't believe him. Fuck.

Honey, this isn't the right time for a stand up knockdown row.

Keep your powder dry and get as much beauty sleep as you can.

The truth has a habit of willing out. You've got half the story and I have no doubt that you'll find out the rest in the next couple of days.

If he's got form with ow or you've had your suspicions in the past, all the more reason to keep your cool and check his phone/email at the earliest opportunity.

Wtf was he doing in his car? Surely if he was drinking he wouldn't have got in his car.
Dh has never done anything like this, but tbh even if it was the first time and dh fed me that line I would beyond furious. And I wouldn't believe him either.

Agree with others. Get some rest + have it it with him later.

I'm sorry but it sounds very odd to me.

Did he actually have his car with him if he was going for drinks?

I would be suspicious, but it would depend on what he's like.

I would be suspicious too tbh. It's up to you whether you want to ask him outright what exactly has gone on or bide your time. Could be telling the truth?

How old is LO? Is this the first time he's gone out since baby was born? I can imagine my DH doing something similar if that was the case, getting too drunk, enjoying the night out a bit too much - I would be bloody livid too though.

he does it once, he'kll do it again. nip this in the bud!!

Call him.

The charge of Excess Alcohol (in charge) sometimes involves cases like this when they come to court.

Last case I saw - Man out intending to get taxi home goes back to car instead and starts car to use the heater. Doesn't drive but falls asleep - police checking he's ok wake him up and find he's very drunk.

Assuming not everyone who does this sort of thing are found/prosecuted/break the law at all then it must be fairly common.

He doesn't have to be driving his car to be charged with being drunk in charge of it or charged with being unfit through drink to be in charge of it.

If he'd been drinking all evening and drove his car home c4-5am, he'd still be over the limit.

Only you can know if it is true or not because it's your dh.

To me it sounds totally plausible. Daft but plausible. In fact, my best friend (female) once fell asleep in her car with the heater on after a night out. She wasn't even drinking, just exhausted. She was woken up by the police who told her they could arrest her as her keys were in ignition (they assumed she was drunk) and it gave her the shock of her life as she is a teacher.

Well you know he is lying about leaving the same time as the others. They've obviously not corroborated their stories. So what else is he lying about?