Dream about old friend has unsettled me, to contact or not?

[cupcake78]

Basically just that. Had a horrible dream about an old friend who for reasons I'm not going to venture into we decided to stop contact and keep our distance. It's been almost 8mths and was happy in the knowledge that we haven't fallen out just need space.

I can't stop wondering after my dream if he's ok or not, been considering contacting him most of the morning to ask "all I need to know is are you ok", but that would open up communication which is not what I want at the moment.

Just leave it.

Is he an ex or just a friend?

A friend of 20yrs.

Depends why you fell out really.

If he did something unforgivable then no, if your able to forgive him then yes. Without knowing the reasons it hard to say

If you've decided to stop contact and keep a distance then there is little point in reopening the communication channels. when someone is cut out of your life to such an extent you lose the 'right' to know if they are OK or not.

This isn't some pre-cognitive supernatural alert of disaster, this is just a brain blip. If you have any mutual friends who can keep their counsel then you might make some very quiet enquiries as to their general well-being, but if you've been acting as if they dont exist, then they should continue to be nonexistant, despite what your sub-concious seems to think.

'not fallen out but need space' suggests a one sided romantic attraction (sorry, i know you wont tell, I just like to speculate...) Ask yourself if he is having a terrible time, what would you do? would you ignore that or would you reopen communications and try to help?

Don't call him because of a dream would be my advice.

Nah. unless something significant has happened in real-life (not the dream-world!) to change the reason you are not in touch.

Dreams are just outlets for us to process emotions. I would read this as showing you are still bothered by this friendship/or the way it has gone, not that you need to renew it.

Yep your all right. Basically forget it and move on. Consider it done. If he needs me he knows where I am.

Your dream was about you - nothing to do with him or his life.

I hate getting emails from people, even people I really like, saying I had a weird dream about you, are you ok. It's so bonkers and I invariably am fine.

If he wants you to know something he will contact you.

Try not to worry.