Is it inappropriate/weird to ask a new guy ...

[NikitasSidekick]

"so, what are you like in an argument?"

as part of a random question via text type thing?

Yes

Yes

Why is this inappropriate? I would ask face to face though, and keep it light. Maybe this is why I am single

Just don't expect the actual truth. We all perceive ourselves as different to the reality, particularly in the case of arguments.

You can only really find out from his x?

I think it's a perfectly normal and sensible question to want to know the answer to, but bear in mind that no one is going to say "Actually I'm a complete arse and will hurl abuse at you before stomping my feet and storming off".

Not at all. Everyone has an arguing "style" and some people tolerate things others wouldn't. Personally I'm a reasoner / walker offer. My husband used to be a screaming, crockery throwing, door slammer. I did not find that acceptable. So now he is also a walker offer if things get too heated.

I think this question is very interesting and important.

I personally would think this was an odd question to ask.

It's one of those 'cross that bridge when we come to it' type things, isn't it? Nobody is going to say "I get very violent" or "I hide under the bed because arguing frightens me" to that question, so it seems a particularly pointless thing to ask.

The thought would never cross my mind, why would you want to ask that?
I spent the first few months in loved up dreaminess believing that we would never argue .
I think the first time we really disagreed and argued was after dc's arrived and we were totally exhausted, so it wasn't an issue until we'd been together for several years.

Also if someone asked me this in a new relationship I'd tend to think the other person was rather argumentative and it would put me off.

I would find it very random if someone asked me that?

I would think that is an odd question to ask, especially over a text. I am a bit of a shouter during an argument, and have been known to be a bit irrational, but I wouldn't admit that to someone I'd just met.

I'd probably say "I?m calm and reasonable and I try not to get angry" or some bollocks like that.

Two of my ex's have been very aggressive/violent during arguments and I've recently started seeing a guy who seems lovely but I find myself thinking "do you change when you're angry?" I've seen him drunk and he just gets funnier and more touchy feely But then there's
drunk + angry =
isn't there?

I know he drinks often. Always lots of cans of lager in his house. This is why I hate being an over-analyser.