I was with my ex husband for 15yrs. We got married 12yrs into the relationship. I left due to him being selfish and ignoring our DS1 (who is now 6yrs old). I met my partner and we have been together for 4yrs. I got a house with my divroce money and me and DS1 were ok and I had a promotion offer. At the same time my partner lived at home but it was a massive house. They asked me to move in with them as they lived 2 hours away. I thought about it and moved and got a job which was a demotion. I was happy living with my partner and DS1 liked it. However partners mother dog bit my son and they did nothing about it. I was very angry. We did not know the area and if we wanted to go into the garden they would let the dogs out and it would come yapping. I had enough and felt confined to few rooms which was silly as I had my own house back home. I left after 1 year as it took a while to get a job. My partner still vivistd at weekends and I fell pregnant its was not planned!! My partner then suggesed to move back down I said not to that house. SO we moved 15mins away from them and rented. My house would not sell so I rented mine out. I was aksed to go to his mother house christmas day I said no as DS1 did not want to go. I did not and the dog was still there. People re assured me and said we will watch the dog there is enough of us. He got bit again I felt stupid for listening to them and the crap. My son did nothing to provoke it at all he just laughed. I got no apology and they didnot speak to e for 2 months. Then DS2 was due they came around I had to carry on asif it was all ok. DS2 came along he was 3days old they asked to take him back to the house I said no the dog is there and I dont want him away from me. My partner rolled his eyes and said how are we going to sort this out. I felt very hurt an let down. Fast forward 7 months his step dad and mother wanted to give us a deposit for a house closer to them and offered help with childcare. Most people would think that was great. My heart sank.
We live 5 mins around the corner his mum visited with his sister every week. Then for no reason stopped coming. I mentioned it to my partner and said it had been a month or so since they last came. This then went onto several months. Then my partner got messages on facebook off his mum saying nasty things. She was always off with him. He went around and confronted her she did not say why and walked off. She then sent moe horrible messages it went on for a month the last one saying your not my son and your out of the will dont try speaking to your step dad he knows. My partner works for his step dad. His mum does not work and neither does his 20yr old sister. I got fed up of the mean messages and I told her to stop it does she now what its doing to her son? I told her She should be proud of him working hard dealing with DS2 (as he had refulx for a year) and made my DS2 very sick. He also had to deal with me having PND. She said he needed to show he cared. I left it there. He went around again she then said she was pissed off at me for sending the message and did not want to come around this house ever again. My partner did not say he backed me up. He has since then gone around several times when her husband has rang my partner saying she wants to see her granson. This pisses me off she does nt see her grandson for 8 months then demands for him to be taken around when we have somthing planned. It all came to a head a few weeks ago. I was about to start a new job my partner had his step dad on the phone she wants to see her grandson. We were about to go out. I told him to lave DS2 here hes not going. My partner went around which I dont know why he did I did not want him to go. He came back I told him if he keeps going around its making me look like a bitch she hates me and you are mot supporting me when I supported him. We argued I got very upset went upstairs very angry and sad shaking I felt awful and betrayed. I came down for my phone and found my partner had punched his self and his face was a mess we had to go to A & E. I rang his step dad up and his mother did not come to see if he was ok she sent his 8 month pregnant sister around our house to see. Im at the point where he has let me down big time twice I still have a home and I can ask te tennant to leave with 1 months notice. I feel numb and let down he keeps going to his mother she treats him like shit. I miss my family soo much and I know the boys will beloved there. I have no friends or family here. My dad is schitzophrenic I have looked after him for 10 years and he has got sectioned every year accpet the last 4 years. Im missing out on my dad being well. My mum has just left and has been here for a week and has just told me she may have skin cancer again (she had it about 12 yrs ago) she is waiting for tests. I dont want to be here with no support and help or love when I have family back home and parents who need me. I also dont want to split up with someone and have a 2nd relationship go down the drain. im worried about having 2 children on my own. Im a mess and dont know what to do.......