I feel that don't have enough 'quality' time with DH. What I mean by quality, is time together to talk and eat dinner once DD is in bed. This used to be 3 times a week but at momment I rarely see DH other than when we are both asleep or rushing around getting ready for work/nursery. In 2006 we have had 3 'proper' evenings together. This was largely because we gave up alcohol for January, had childcare problems, no babysitter, family staying and lots of illness. But despite things now being back to normal in last 21 days he has been out nearly every night or the few times he is not out late he gets home 7.30 and watches TV. In short I feel neglected I have suggested that we have a 'date' night once a week but he won't diarise it so it doesn't happen. He says we see each other all the time.
I woke him up at 6am to say I was upset because we didn't spend time together like we used to. He said lets do next Tues and Wed. His view is that he is time pressed that is why we don't spend time together. But I feel that if he has a free night then he should spend it with me not playing football, drinking with friends, playing golf etc. Is this being selfish?
I no longer want to 'do' next Tues or Wed as frankly given I have had to beg him to spend time with me the attraction is no longer there. I feel like a stalker.
Other than the above everything else in the relationship is top drawer. I adore DH and really like spending time with him and just wish he still felt the same.