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1 more week and i'm off!

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hollolew2 · 08/08/2012 17:31

My sons a level results are out next week and as long as he gets what he needs to get into uni i'm leaving with him ( not to go to uni! Lol).
A bit of background married very young two kids now 21 ( just graduated) & 18. My DH has a lot of narcarcisstic traits met up with old friends enablers and coke heads ( previously never touched coke) had an affair with a woman in this group ( while I was at home with the kids) . Was about to leave him when my son was diagnosed with a rare incurable lymphoma ( which is stable at stage 1 and is set to stay that way) I decided to stay as he's not a crap father although he is selfish and everything is about him.
DS and I have just had a huge row with him mostly about how if he doesn't get his grades he's not supporting him etc etc and he's not sitting on his arse ( I agree) but that's all the kids can do this week.the row started after the kids and I were comparing ears he was saying how small they are we looked and his and I inferred that his were big. He then started calling me a nasty c**t in a joking voice and didn't like it when DS & I gave him some of his own medicine ( lovely huh!).
Anyway may even leave if the uni doesn't come through cos I'd rather live in a hole in the bottom of the garden than with him. The next week will be tense enough anyway without Mr drama taking over I even have a feeling that if DS does get his grades he'll be disappointed he can't moan to his revolting golf buddies about us. Just feel like his behaviour ( I would fill up all the pages on mumsnet!) has turned my life into a series of Eastender's can't wait for it to finish!

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ImperialBlether · 08/08/2012 19:53

Ooh this is exciting for you. So say your son gets what he needs, what's your plan? Who is aware of this?

MrsMcEnroe · 08/08/2012 19:58

Good luck OP and well done. Leaving someone is HARD (there's another thread about this at the moment too).

Fingers crossed that your DS gets the grades he wants. And fingers crossed generally for you and both DSs. Keep us updated.

Pickgo · 08/08/2012 22:50

Good luck hollow.

Have you got all your plans in place? Are you going while he's out?

hollolew2 · 09/08/2012 07:05

To be frank his rediculous screaming at poor DS and I about his failed A level results ( they come out next week ! ) really has given me the
momentum . Been saving for ages first stop my bf who I supported through her 3 year divorce then straight into a rental hopefully with my doggies . Probably be easier when DS goes to uni but I can bring it forward if he starts shouting feel like I'm in for a hell of a week of him telling me how I should make DS do things and if worked harder at school and what a shit mother I am . He's 18 a good kid yes he could work harder but couldn't they all? 21 DD already gone to her bd she said there's no way she's being here with him carrying on! Anyway I was out last night he went to golf then round to his single mates whose still friendly with OW I think they were both shagging her at the same time ( nice) I got in from my bf and he was oh I've just got in being all chatty ( does this when he's gone too far anyway sitting here with tears running down my face for my boy . Please little one ( not so little ) have done enough I hope I gods of examination marking are smiling down on us.

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Ormiriathomimus · 09/08/2012 07:10

Fingers crossed for good results! For ds and your sake!!

SquishyCinnamonSwirls · 09/08/2012 07:22

I hope he gets brilliant results!
And it's good you have a plan. Good luck.

MusicForTheMasses · 09/08/2012 07:49

Good luck to you and your son.

Toughasoldboots · 09/08/2012 07:51

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hollolew2 · 09/08/2012 08:06

I want to get up and go apart from a couple of vases from my mum my clothes & personal items and pictures of the kids I don't want the rest he can keep it with knobs on! I didn't really get any furniture I truly ever wanted but he got his sports cars and sent DS to a ridiculous private school which impressed his work mates but DS would have been more than happy with the comp up the road! Any hi ho off to work I go have a good day MNs you are a life saver x

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ImperialBlether · 09/08/2012 08:11

You've got to be careful, though, financially. Don't leave him with everything and put yourself in a position where you have to buy everything.

Where will you live - locally? How about your son? Where's he applying to?

hollolew2 · 09/08/2012 09:39

I will hopefully live not too far from here and DS a two hour door to door drive. Yes I understand what your saying financially but I hope not to have to knee jerk and run just can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

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dondon33 · 09/08/2012 10:21

Another here with fingers crossed for everyone OP
best of luck xx

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