Anyone else feeling you have a teenage son instead of a husband??

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I'm 4 years older than him which is no excuse (for me) but it is for him. I'm so tired of managing his life / finances and I hate not to be able to have a proper grow up conversation too...and part of his childish behaviour is related to a lack of self steam, ambition, drive, laziness (not working laziness but he doesn't read, watch the news, understand nothing about the world). He is so shallow and predictive, being with him is really boring as I don't feel I'm interacting with another adult. He claims he is dyslexic but I do feel there is something else going on, maybe a disability or something but he reacts very badly at any sort of serious conversation regarding himself and is always 'hard done by' and 'victimised'...can take any criticism and take everything very personally too. Even when I make mistakes and assume and beat myself up a beat he tries to tell me it is not a big deal when I clear see it is and it is sweet but I don't have a problem assuming I make mistakes and I don't have a problem being criticised, so even when he is so lenient with me makes me angry. I wanted to rant but now I see what I (we) need is help? But how?

Sorry I'm on the phone, I meant to say 'he Can't take any criticism and take everything very personal' like I'm always attacking him when in fact I'm just expressing a different opinion. If I have a different opinion than him he instantly goes on 'you think I'm always wrong' mode which isn't the case...

What did the two of you talk about before you got married? Presumably this lack of interest in reading, the news and world events isn't totally new.

That is one of the issues as well I don't think we should have get married and I even regret it at times...we met at work and my heart was broken, I was feeling lonely he was insistently asking me out and we started hanging out. But we were always busy and surrounded by people, I didn't plan to take things further and even tried to end 2 or 3 times because we didn't have much in common. Than I got pregnant by accident which was very shocking because I was 30 with many serious relationships in my past and never got pregnant before. I thought about termination but couldn't really do it. I had a really cold/distant father as well so I wanted my child to have a good relationship with their father which meant getting married otherwise I would have to go back to my far away country and be a single mother (with my family's support) and I didn't think it would be fair on the child. No he would go and visit because he can't even take a bus outside his rota/routine from work, he won't adventure taking the tube or train all by himself and he lives in London since 2005 (he is from Scotland). He won't go alone anywhere a part to work and the little shops around our home, nevermind to other country. Plus if I wasn't managing the money he wouldn't have nothing left just debts.

My Dh is four years younger than me (I think we're roughly the same age as you?) and I don't feel like that at all....