Wondering if this guy had taken something previous to sex?

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Slept with a guy for the first time last night. Slept at his house, we get into bed - seemed very slow with the foreplay but eventually we had sex. I couldn't help thinking he wasn't fully erect though. When we'd finished, about half hour later, he wanted to go again. I've never known a man in his 40s be able to go again 30 minutes after coming. Then early hours of the morning - he wanted to go again and then again an hour or so later.
Throughout he kept an erection but it never felt like a full erection iyswim? almost but not quite.
Next morning he tells me to go on his ebay and look for something. I see in the history some blue pill things. Alternative to viagra?
Do you reckon he'd taken one before we had sex?? I can see why he wouldn't have mentioned it if he had but I feel a bit 'lied to' as he said I was the only one who'd ever turned him on that much that allowed him to perform like that. I believed him too

I have had bf who did cocaine and had to use Viagra, although they get hard,it can take all night to come (sometimes never).

If your bf was coming then he might be telling you the truth.

There are lots of reasons why men need 'help' to get hard, don't let that put you off, just talk about it.

I'm sorry you feel lied to and I understand why that makes you feel bad. I'm afraid from what you describe it sounds like it although I've no experience of viagra or its alternatives. Did he orgasm? Can you orgasm and keep an erection with viagra? I don't know.

Can you orgasm and keep an erection with viagra

Yes, although it can go down to a semi.

OP, he may not be lying, the intensity of orgasms varies and as i said just because he needs help, doesn't mean that there isn't a variation on how he feels.

I can see why you'd be feeling a bit about it, but maybe he had his reasons?

It does sound like it might be possible but don't forget all men are different, maybe his erections are always not quite full? And my DH is in his forties and can be ready to go again after 15 mins so he might not have taken anything

I think you need to talk to him about it, but it might be a tricky conversation

Ooh thanks, birds! Do you think you could talk to him op?

Thinking about it, I'm sure he only actually came once in the 4 times we had sex. He made all the right noises but there was a lack of erm ... evidence iyswim?

He has had a vasectomy too, don't know if that is relevant? I don't really want to mention it as he doesn't know I saw the pills and I don't want to embarrass him or make him feel bad. He's a lovely guy and it's an awkward one because although I would be a little hurt at being lied to, I could see why he'd lied.

Sometimes 'performance anxiety' can cause incomplete erections on a first sexual intercourse with a new partner. Or maybe the time between taking any medication and letting it take full effect was too short, which might explain the long slow foreplay.

I don't think you are going to get many men nervous at their first performance for whatever reason, own up to having Viagra as a back up. Which I imagine is more common than you'll be led to believe.

He didn't lie to you. He probably did feel what he said. Although Viagra can give you help with an erection....you've got to want to do the rest.

Speaking as a man...... sex with a new partner is stressful, you want to put on a good performance, you want to make sure your new partner 'enjoy's' herself, so many people do resort to getting a little extra help, and not just first time out, otherwise there wouldn't be such a market for products that can assist.

I'd give him good marks for trying in his own way to please you as hard as he did.

Interestingly, I just looked at my Ebay log in and it doesn't seem to just casually show history unless one is in the My Ebay/Selling section, were you there, or were you having a little snoop at his browsing history to see what he's been up to?